To add some words to the points just made…
If you are in your spaceship in free space accelerating at 9.8 m/s[sup]2[/sup], your accelerometer would indicate that. You could use a handheld accelerometer, or you could use the one you always have with you: your inner ears’ semicircular canals, which give you your sense of balance and acceleration.
If your spaceship had no windows, you could say nothing more than “I’m accelerating forward, it seems.” If your spaceship were instead sitting stationary on the surface of earth, pointed upward, and it still had no windows, your accelerometer(s) would say the same thing: 9.8 m/s[sup]2[/sup]. If someone lied to you to make you think you really were in free space, you would simply say “I’m accelerating forward, it seems.”
In everyday language, you probably would choose to say that you are stationary in the second (Earth surface) scenario. But there’s nothing you can do to distinguish these two cases. If you are willing to call one “stationary”, then the other could also be called “stationary”.
If you want to leave gravity out of it, then it’s just a matter of care with the words. Say you are walking along a sidewalk and you pass a mailbox and a mailman, and the mailman is walking in the other direction. You could ask:
- Where am I relative to the mailbox? (Answer: 0 feet away, then a short while later 10 feet away, then a short while later 20 feet away…)
- Where am I relative to the mailman? (Answer: 0 feet away, then a short while later 20 feet away, then a short while later 40 feet away…)
- Where am I relative to me? (Answer 0 feet away, then a short while later 0 feet away, then a short while later 0 feet away…)
If you were accelerating at a constant rate relative to the sidewalk and were interested in your velocity, you could ask:
- What is my velocity relative to the mailbox? (5 ft/s, then 10 ft/s, then 15 ft/s)
- What is my velocity relative to the mailman? (10 ft/s, then 15 ft/s, then 20 ft/s)
- What is my velocity relative to me? (0 ft/s, then 0 ft/s, then 0 ft/s)
All this is saying is that one must be explicit about which velocity you’re interested in.