Izzy:
I would raise the possibility that, none of us being the ultimate in pellucid communicators, it is quite possible that SM may have simply misapprehended what you were trying to convey. And I do not say this to cast aspersions on your posting style, but because I have from time to time had exactly the same problem. IMHO you sometimes make tacit assumptions of what you believe to be shared viewpoints or groundwork in composing posts that lead to a statement that is obviously clear to you but remains opaque or at least difficult to garner the meaning from to other posters.
For example, two small exchanges in the “why is homosexuality considered a sin” thread. First, I had used what I believed to be an example of rabbinic fencing as an illustration of a point I was trying to make, purposefully to “neutralize” the point from the judgmental-Christian aspect and to show how a similar faith system adds to the written text to get to its interpretation of it. Since rabbinic fencing specifically and intentionally adds to the written text, I cannot see how that could be considered offensive. Zev, of course, corrected me that the point in question was, by rabbinic rules, considered to be more expansive than the verbatim text would indicate, with oral tradition providing the interpretation which the Talmud adds. This was information I had not had, and welcomed Zev providing, as it clarified my understanding of Jewish practice. But you seemed to take offense at my raising it at all.
My initial reaction to your comment was, “What, you have to be a Jew to be legitimately interested in how Jewish tradition interprets the Old Testament?” I bypassed that and responded to Zev, answering your question to me in passing as part of my response to him. (Which I hope you picked up on – I try not to let points addressed to me go unanswered, out of courtesy to fellow posters, and only now realize that I had not flagged that as also responding to you.)
Then, later, you drew a distinction to Hastur on the difference between an individual having what you considered a failing and a group advocating the acceptance of the same. I honestly did not see the point at which your distinction was driving, although it was clear that you evidently saw a difference in practice in how an individual should react to the two.
I raise these, not to flame you for foggy posting, but to illustrate the point that sometimes what is very clear in the mind of the person posting may not be so in the eye of the reader. And if I have had this problem with your posts twice, and (very unhumbly) consider myself as one of the more skillful people at understanding what someone coming from a different perspective is getting at, then I would suggest that there may be a real problem of lack of clarity in what you are saying – not faulting your skills, but rather flagging the question of whether you are not incorrectly assuming as shared to others the assumptions underlying what you actually write.
I say this with great diffidence, because I have come to respect what you have to say for the most part, and do occasionally find the opacity (to me) of one remark or another to be baffling in someone who is usually quite clear.
But that may be at the root of the problems provoking the exchange above. The thoughts are offered in that spirit, not with any intent to fault you or flame you.