Really depends on the type of club you’re in. If it’s a “titty bar”, a buck or two for stage is generally sufficient imo. If you’re in a high-rent Gentlemen’s Club, 3-5 bucks is generally considered appropriate, anything higher is also acceptable, though less frequent. (I usually get 3-5 bucks, and in the course of a busy night (usually 2 stage rotations of 5 stages each) I will generally get a few 10s and 20s as well.
Personal dances I think are pretty much 20 bucks wherever you go these days in Gentlemen’s Clubs (though some places I know do bump it up to 30), but titty bars I’m not really sure, I imagine it varies depending on how low-brow the place is. Tipping is always welcome when getting a personal dance, but I don’t personally expect it unless you’re tying up alot of my time.
In the clubs I work in (high-rent gentlemen’s clubs), if you ask a girl to sit down and have a few drinks, chit-chat, etc. in addition to dancing, if you’re pulling me off the floor for 45 minutes or more, i do expect to be compensated for my time, in addition to buying dances.
I definitely think a girl should sit down with the guy and establish some sort of rapport before asking for a dance (the girls who just pop from table to table and ask “You want a dance, you want a dance, you want a dance” are one of my pet peeves…that flies in a titty bar I guess, but I think it’s unacceptable in a high-rent club), but if you want me to sit there for a couple hours, that’s time I could be dancing for other people (i.e. money I’m losing), and compensation above and beyond dances is expected at that point.
This is one of my biggest pet peeves, speaking as a dancer. I always go up and try to put on a good show, smile, catch peoples eyes, flirt, etc. Sure, it’s frustrating if no one’s really tipping, but it’s part of the job, and frankly, it’s our “advertising” for the night.
When I see a dancer who goes up, just walks around and looks absolutely bored out of her skull, it’s inevitable she’ll come offstage and bitch about how no one was tipping her.
Well, DUH, honey. I wouldn’t have tipped you either. You’re an “entertainer”. This may sound like a novel idea, but next time, why don’t you go up there and…oh, I don’t know…try and f-ing entertain someone?!
Guys, if you don’t want to tip, that’s cool, but please don’t sit next to the stage. No one expects you to tip if you sit away from the stage (though it’s surely always welcome!!), but if you’re sitting on the tip rail, PLEASE tip each girl, even it’s only a buck or two. This isn’t a spectator sport, we require audience participation.
Lastly, on behalf of all dancers…alot of guys will get mutiple dances in a row. Great! We love that!
However, at least a couple times a month a guy will try and stiff a dancer for what he owes her, or try and short her. We hate you f-ers. We really do. It’s not cute or amusing in the least, it’s theft of services. It’s stealing. I’ve now lost money not only on what you owed me, but what I could have been making elsewhere from some guy who isn’t a complete arsehole who thinks it’s funny to rip off dancers.
The money you guys give us, is all we make. We get no paycheck whatsoever, and only rarely does a club give a girl a cut of any champagne or drink commissions (it usually rightfully imo, goes to the waitresses).
We pay to work in these clubs, and we have to tip several people at night’s end in addition to the house fee. It costs me personally an average of 80 bucks just to work for the night, so I have to make that much before I’m even breaking even. Don’t make me beg you for money you owe me, cause now all you’re doing is pissing me off. It’s not my fault or problem you’re too drunk to keep track of what you’re doing or how much you’re spending. If you’re too drunk to pay attention, just say no to dances. It’s ok, really, you probably won’t remember them in the morning anyways.
I had a guy just the other night try and give me 20 bucks when he owed me 80, and knew damn well he owed me 80. Normally, I just go get a bouncer and a manager to handle it, but I’ll be honest and say it had been a bad night, I’d had it, and I completely lost it on the guy. I ended up making him feel like the biggest lowlife ever born, and by the time I was done I had about 4 tables worth of dancers and customers laughing at him, but I got my money.
He ended up not having a great time, and though it’s his fault, that’s a shame. We don’t want you guys to have a bad time, cause chances are, you won’t come back. We want you to come back. We want you to have a good time! Just don’t treat us like crap, or something sub-human.
We’re human, we have feelings, we have families, we have hopes and dreams, 99% of us aren’t coked-up whores (granted, there’s generally one or two in any club sigh), and we’re not nearly as dumb as you think we are. (Ok, well, maybe some of the girls I work with really are that dumb, but they’re still human and have feelings, and are mostly very sweet).