When I was in nursing school I won the Pediatric Nursing Award. I hated my pediatric rotation, most of my patients were in there directly or indirectly due to abuse/neglect/knowledge deficit of the parents. (My instructor did say it was a weird few months on the unit). My patients included.
*A five year old with burns to 75% of his body, left at home as one of 6 kids… the oldest being 8 and the youngest being six months, while mom and her neighbours went out to the bar. (Children’s Aid Society involved)
*A three month old infant with pneumonia, because 15 year old mom thought baby just had a cold for the last 6 weeks. (Also CAS)
- A child with cancer who was already in and out of foster care and his mother would “forget” to take him to Toronto Sick Kids Hospital when she went to take him to the big smoke for his appointments. Chemo regimens interrupted.
There were too many more sad cases to list. I realized that if I worked in Peds eventually I would end up slapping the parents. Or burn out and get cynical, like some nurses I saw.
My career has ended up working with dementia patients and in geriatric psychiatry. I have been kicked bitten punched scratched spit upon choked and had my wrist broken by patients. I have had men wonder if I am a masochist, and if because i put up with it professionally I have a “kink” in this direction. (That’s the wrong thing to ask me coming off a stretch of 5 12-hour shifts in a row, where a patient gave me a fat lip but I opted to stay at work because I was heavily involved in the palliative care of another patient who’s family had really connected with me and were happy I was caring for their dad.)
Even without the knowledge of the physical abuse I have suffered with patients I have other nurses… peds, NICU, Burn unit nurses say “I could never ever do what you do.” And I say “Nor could I do what you do. We all find our places, and each of us bring our best selves to the job.”
Also we all have our “yuck factor.” Mine is the mouth. I can do nasty nasty wound care, clean up after people infected with Norovirus, have had a dead finger fall off in my hand (it was black like charcoal and kind just snapped off like a burned stick) pronounce people dead, do post mortem care and call the families to tell them, but I cannot for the life of me imagine being a dental hygienist, or doing the deep root planing and scaling. That is just NASTY!
As for doctors…working with inner city people with multiple diagnoses. Drug addict, diabetes, gangrene, emphysema, and chances are they are just going to be in and out of your care until they die.