Why are so many people so eager to find a couple, or a “significant other”?
More often I see people getting all depressed for being “alone” or for not finding the right person.
I have objections to this idea because I think that there are many other reasons to live and be happy than finding another person to be in a long relationship with.
Sure having friends is a good and healthy thing, even necessary. But I’m not so sure this is the case with finding a couple.
Living by yourself has so many benefits as well. More freedom, less arguments and more time for yourself.
I can understand that getting married and having kids can provide a purpose and a motivation to keep on going on a day to day basis. It is in our genetic drive to procreate and take such path. I also think society has a part in creating an image of what something “ideal” should be.
But learning for the sake of finding out more before one dies, enjoying moments of comitment-free pleasures and not having to give much attention to another person is not all that bad.
I do think that in many ways, living alone should be as much a normal option as being with a another person.
Of course, this is not to argue that being with another person for a while is a bad thing, on the contrary another person can help you improve as a person, provide warmth and comfort and a sense of security. But it is a little over-blown, IMHO.
What’s your perspective on the importance of relationships?