You’re going to make big trade offs every where you live. I’ve lived all over personally and there’s no such thing as perfect.
I honestly find it almost “provincial” when I hear someone who has lived in a specific city virtually 100% of their lives talk about what’s outside the city. Some people think anything outside their city is farm land, and that 100% of the United States outside the largest 8-9 cities is literally just endless fields.
Others think it’s just endless suburbs, miles and miles of equally sized plots with nearly identical homes.
The truth is actually only like 30% of America lives in what people from New York City or Chicago would consider “urban.” You see we’re highly urbanized according to the census, but the census definition for urban is essentially “any census defined place with a population greater than 2,500.” You see when they started using the terms urban/rural, rural literally meant farm land, and you literally had to walk miles to the next neighbor, or you had small share cropper huts close together but miles and miles between little communities and sometimes a day trip or longer to get somewhere with real stores and etc.
Outside of the large cities you have:
Small and Medium Sized Cities (pop. 35,000-250,000), many of them hundreds of years old. They may not have as wide a variety of cultural groups, as a New York or Chicago but a lot of them will surprised you with how unique they are and how even in the smaller cities there are very well defined, historic neighborhoods.
As you get smaller than cities like that you get into smaller and smaller communities, but even on down to the 5,000-10,000 population range I can still name some little towns I’ve been in which are their own little communities and very much “small city” and not “suburb” in style.
Then you do have the actual suburbs, highly residential areas with only heavily consumer oriented businesses (the stereotype being most of the businesses there are to serve the residents, whereas in a city proper you might have more large scale service, manufacturing, or other sorts of business that the people who live in the suburbs work at.)
After that you get into people who genuinely live in rural areas. This isn’t the same as people who “live on a farm.” A lot of people live outside of any incorporated city and in sparsely populated areas but they just have a big yard and a long drive between neighbors, they aren’t necessarily farmers (in fact most of them aren’t.)
And then there of course are still like almost a million farmers in the U.S., and they do typically live on real farms.
For me I personally like medium sized cities a lot for their convenience combined with their relatively high quality of life (in the measures that are important to me.) Something that I found really aggravating when I actually lived in D.C. itself years ago is you’re basically committed to shopping at little boutique stores to buy staples. You end up paying 50% more than someone can pay for the same quality stuff at Wal-Mart, and the dude who owns that store lives out in Reston and is a borderline millionaire. It’s a hassle to buy lots of stuff at once (be it staples, electronics, anything) because you either have to drive and fight insane traffic or you have to carry stuff through the public transit system, and you don’t really want to do that if you have a ton of stuff you’re carrying. For large items it’s almost guaranteed you have to pay for delivery.
The noise and smaller living space don’t bother me as much, but that’s also a major negative for large cities.
True rural areas also have a lot of negatives. I own a cabin on the WV/VA border that I use for hunting trips and things, and it’s a nice place to visit but I’d never want to live there. You can easily get stranded in bad snow storms, and even serious 4x4 vehicles will have trouble getting out. It has a generator but if power goes out for a long period of time you probably will not have enough fuel to keep it going (if natural gas lines were near it then you could buy one of those generators that can run off your natural gas line and keep going indefinitely, but there isn’t a natural gas line available.) Obviously unless you want to use satellite internet there is no connection to the rest of the world. Cell phone reception is laughable. Even radio stations unlikely to get tuned in very well.
Since you have to drive to buy anything it’s not a big deal to buy a lot at once since you can pile it all in your car, but if you forgot to buy toilet paper and it’s 10 AM you may be looking at a 45 minute drive to Wal-Mart. There are small stores nearby off states highways and such but as is typical in places like that, they close at like 4:30 PM or something crazy.