Well, I’m willing to accept that I’m outside the norm in that I care more about a man’s looks and charm when I meet him than my perception of his earning potential.
And it’s true that women are much more concerned/aware about safety than men are.
But to me, if the guy is cute and/or charming, that’s going to go a long way towards overriding the other concerns, and I think this is true for a lot of women. Why should we assume that our pizza delivery guy has no personal charm?
Here’s an anecdote from my own life. Professional movers were coming to my barracks room to pack up my belongings to ship them. Two guys showed up, one was the experienced old timer and the other was his newbie sidekick. They start packing stuff, I’m on the other side of the room doing something else, and the older guy, who is packing my dresser drawers, says something that in almost every conceivable circumstance would be extremely inappropriate and alarming. He made some joke about a pair of thong underwear. For about 1/100th of a second I was on the verge of getting indignant, but then I realized that he had said it in a playful, innocent way and I felt I had nothing to fear from him, that he was a playful guy trying to enjoy his job and pass the time with some banter.
Probably a lot of guys couldn’t have pulled that off. If the guy had been someone like Bill Maher, who I think sets off every woman’s creepometer even through the television screen, I’d have probably thrown him out, called for help, and called his employer to report him.
So I’m just saying. Charm.