Congratulations, that is the world’s worst stealth brag.
Iggyette, 13yo, is in bed about 11pm most nights, though sometimes as late as 1am. She wakes around 9am-10am.
But her school schedule is very different - 2pm to 7pm. The school building is in use for younger kids in the morning. This is her first year of the afternoon schedule and she loves it. She is not a morning person.
My little one goes to bed whenever I do. Often my little one is up and wanting attention before the alarm clock goes off.
My 4-and-a-half-year-old (where the hell does the time go?) starts her bedtime routine at 8:00 and is in bed with lights out at about 8:45. She’ll frequently–especially if she takes a nap at day care–sit in bed babbling for anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour after that. She wakes up at about 7:30 most mornings.
4 and 6 year old. Usually between 7 and 8:00.
In the summer, we sometimes let them stay up later.
Seriously. Epic fail.
Almost 2-year-old; in bed between 7:30 and 8. Up around 7am generally, sometimes as late as 8am.
For those that keep their young kids up later so they’ll sleep in later - my understanding is that’s not exactly how it works. Sometimes moving the bedtime up will actually cause wake-up time to move later as well.
During school days it’s 8:30, maybe 9 or so on the weekend for my eight year old. With summertime I get a little more relaxed and she’ll be up until 11 some nights, or we’ll be in bed watching a movie around then at least.
I just read this morning that not providing a stable sleep schedule is not good for kids though, so I’m thinking we’ll try to get in bed a little earlier until school starts.
He just wanted to make sure we knew how awesome his kids are, in case we missed it the first time.
My son wakes up at 6:30 every morning, no matter how late he goes to bed. His sister will sleep in a little.
Aw… the haters are so cute when they get jealous.
The point intended in both this and the other thread was that teaching personal responsibility is a much better lesson than enforcing arbitrary rules or deadlines. They can carry this over to other aspects of their lives. Since others were linking to articles that say not making your kid go to bed promptly at a given time will surely lead to failure and delinquency I countered with my real life example of parenting.
I promise I’m not jealous of you or your kids.
Who cares? This is a thread about bedtimes, not lame-ass stories about GPAs and charity work.
And my kids’ bedtimes are anything but arbitrary.
Did you actually read the links, or are you just guessing?
“Looked for any excuse to trot out lame stories about my kids.”
And my contribution was that I don’t believe in enforcing a strict bedtime after a certain age.
Really, what scientific approach did you use to determine if 9:00 or 9:15 is the exact appropriate time for a certain age?
Did you? The first line is “Late nights and Lax bedtime routines can blunt young children’s minds.” I was countering that in my case this hasn’t been true. I didn’t say it would work for everyone, but for some here is an example of where it did.
The haters line was intended as a joke.
Sorry to have upset you so with making you read that. I guess next time I’ll just post that I disagree with most of the posters in your parenting style, but you will just have to trust me that my kids turned out ok despite of it all. I guess it would be so much easier if my kids were all failures so you could all say you told me so.
That was part of your contribution, yes. A small part.
So, you didn’t read the links, and you didn’t read my posts in this thread.
Try again.
So your kids go to bed between 7 and 8 and sometimes a little later in the summer. And your son gets up at 6:30 and your daughter sometimes sleeps in.
Wow… the internet is giving you a standing ovation for your contribution.
Well, lets see… your first post came after mine and was criticizing me. Is your complaint that I used 9 or 9:15 as my example of an arbitrary time instead of 7 or 8 (or sometimes later)? You still haven’t explained why it isn’t 6 or 7, or maybe 8 or 9.
And the links… I quoted one, and the only other one was for an alarm clock. What important thing did I miss?
You seem a bit cranky… maybe you should start going to bed earlier.
I gave exactly what the OP asked for, and exactly what the OP offered as an example.
Nor did you explain why you set a bedtime for your kids when they were young. You haven’t even said what that time was, which was **the only thing **the OP was looking for.
Ah… now I understand. You were too busy being in awe of my awesome kids that you didn’t notice that I was responding to post 4 regarding a 14 year old who goes to bed at 9:45 (or sometimes 10).
As to how we decided when they were younger, it was a complex formula based on their BMI, exact age, and how the stars were aligned. Nothing arbitrary here. I’d go into more detail but I’m planning to write a book for all of the new parents who think there is one and only one solution that works perfectly for everyone.
And I seriously apologize to the OP who posted a simple opinion question that apparently I derailed by including examples of how my method worked in my situation, but for some reason others took offense to.
Do you teach them reading comprehension as well? Because the single article linked to by a single poster didn’t say that at all.
How do you know? If your kids had gotten more sleep, they might have already graduated college early and cured cancer. You don’t know!
Seriously, though, there doesn’t need to be a bunch of arguing and bickering to get the point across to you that your stealth bragging is annoying and unnecessary, does there?
Who said I included everything they have done? 
Point taken… I never considered it stealth bragging. I considered it examples to show that there are examples of success despite parenting styles that may differ from the norm. I didn’t start the arguing… I intended to post a counter opinion with some examples to back it up. I didn’t respond until the second person claimed I had an “epic fail.”
The overall tone of the thread was “what is the correct time?” with the implication that if not done correctly the child would not live up to their fullest potential. I have an opinion that may not match the main stream way of thinking. I chose to use real life examples of how my results turned out. Apparently in doing so I offended some of you and for that I apologize.
We’re obviously reading different threads, because that doesn’t describe this one at all.