Today’s Dear Abby column used the phrase “shining me on” which I discovered, by use of Google, means to agree with someone even when you don’t agree with them. What parts of the counrty use this phrase? I live in Ohio, and lived for many years in Georgia, and have never heard the term before, but the number of Google hits indicates that it is pretty common somewhere. So, where?
I remember using it in Southern California in the 60’s but it has been a long time and many miles since I have heard it.
It is very common here in central Mississipppi. And, not just ‘agreeing with someone when you don’t agree with them’ but also encouraging someone to believe in something which isn’t true, or valid, or likely to come to pass. As in “he kept sayin’ he was gonna ask me to prom, but he was just shinin’ me on” or “he kept hollerin’ like he wanted to buy my truck but he was just shinin’ me on”.
I vote for [Another piece of late 60s / early 70s lingo that’s making a comeback]. I guess in Central MS things happen slow enough the slang never left.
What NinetyWt said. It was in use in norcal in the 1970’s. Dunno about now.
Shining me on is a good form of bullshit. As in, he was bullshitting me.
My mother still uses it, mostly when she thinks I’m blowing her off.
She’s in her late 50s, from Southern California.
Robin, who frequently blows her mother off
East Coast here. Never heard of it.
For NinetyWt’s meaning, I’d saying “leading me on”.
NinetyWt has the version I have heard, too, in Alabama and Tennessee, but I wouldn’t consider it as a “common” expression, certainly not as common as “bullshit” or even some of these that convey similar things:
yanking one’s chain
feeding one a line
leading one on
The phrase has a tinge of quaintness as far as I’m concerned and a sort of datedness in these parts.
A related question: is “steal away” still used anywhere? The term seemed quite common in 1970s-era rock songs, but I never hear it in common use.
Southern California in the '70s. Haven’t heard (or used) it in decades.
I went to college in San Diego from 1975 to 1980, and I often heard the expression “shine (something) on”, with (something) usually an early class or just anything the speaker didn’t want to do.
But I never heard of “shining someone on”.
I’m from Southern Ontario, and I’d never heard of the phrase before reading this thread. I’ve not heard anyone down here say it, either. Nor “gaslighting.”
I’ve only heard the phrase used in film by the young John Connor in Terminator 2, he’s supposed to be a Californian
There’s also the song “Shine It All On” by E/Eels (not sure when it came out), which seems to imply lying to oneself or pretending something does not exist. I’m not sure where E is from, though.
If you ever see that it’ll be on on TCM or Retro or an oldies movies channel, you owe it to yourself to see Gaslight (1944) with Charles Boyer and Ingrid Bergman. The term has been used for much simpler ploys and ruses, but its origin probably precedes the notion in the movie.