FYI, The UCC is also known as the Congregationalists, although not all Congregationalists are UCC. Anyway, the UCC church I have attended in my town used to have a lesbian associate pastor and the head pastor performed a committment ceremony for her and her partner.
My father is a UCC minister and has many colleagues who are openly gay.
I belong to a Baptist church (American Baptist, not Southern) that is “Welcoming and Affirming,” which means that we welcome GLBTetc. people and support them and all that.
The Reform movement (the largest Jewish movement in the United States) is very gay-friendly. I’m not sure if this is still true, but when the movement voted to approve of gay marriage in…either 1999 or 2000, I can’t remember exactly…it was the largest religious group in the country to do so. There are gay Reform rabbis and predominantly gay Reform congregations.
The Conservative moment allows individual rabbis to decide whether or not to marry gay couples. As long as they’re both Jewish, of course, as they do not allow rabbis to perform interfaith marriages at all.
As for Orthodox movement…well, don’t hold your breath on that one.
I’d say the United Methodists are gay-friendly. I could be wrong, but I believe they were the first mainstream Christian denomination to marry gay people.
The Evangelical Lutherans is about as mainstream Christian as you can get but they will “commit” you and your partner if you’d like. My pastor will even (jokingly) accuse you of living in sin if you WON’T go through the ceremony (he likes weddings). They haven’t QUITE reached the point where actively gay people can be ordained but we’re working on it.
Lisa, no, the United Methodists will NOT marry gay people. They had a big shitstorm about that a couple years ago and the guy who filed the complaint is now pastor at my wife’s old church. She never liked the people there anyway.