The two that I know of are the Episcopalian church (most diocese) and the Metropolitan Community Churches.
What others?
I thought the Methodists did, but I don’t know where I got the impression. They don’t even allow gay ministers.
-FrL-
ETA: Sorry, more competent googling gave me more info. The United Churches of Christ are down with it, as well as the Unitarian Universalists. (Though I was mostly interested in Christian denominations, and I don’t think the latter counts itself as such.) Any others?
Depending on the pastor & congregation, The Episcopal Church, the United Church of Christ, MCC of course, and I think the Presbyterian Church USA has that discretion also. Perhaps also American Baptist Churches have the discretion also.
I assume you’re asking about only Christian denominations.
Methodist congregations & pastors have performed gay marriages, but at risk of being disciplined by the larger denomination. That varies according to diocese.
Even IF a denomination allows or tolerates it, that does not mean that a pastor or congregation of that denomination will actually perform a gay marriage or blessing.
It’s an irrelevant question. More important is to ask “Which states allow same-sex couples to marry?”
If you want same-sex marriage to be legalized, then you have to focus on the salient fact that marriage rules are governed by the state, not the churches.
Depending on what the OP wants, it’s hardly an irrelevant question. In my state (Wisconsin), UU ministers have been officiating at same-sex ‘commitment’ ceremonies for decades, despite the state still not allowing SS couples to marry.
They’re about the closest thing I’ve seen to an organized religion based on atheism and just living your life as a decent person. Despite that, Humanist celebrants are recognized in all 50 states to legally perform weddings.
It’s not irrelevant. Religious marriage is important (or not) to same-sex couples for the same reasons that religious marriage is important (or not) to opposite-sex couples - tradition, expression of faith, making the relatives happy, etc.
As it happens, opposite-sex couples have the option of civil marriage. Opposite-sex couples who don’t wish to have a civil ceremony can generally assume that a religious marriage ceremony will be recognized as equally valid, providing it wouldn’t be otherwise illegal (bigamy, underage partner(s), and so on).
It’s entirely possible that a same-sex couple would have a religious marriage ceremony precisely because civil marriage isn’t an option. A religious ceremony, even if not legally recognized, nevertheless provides an opportunity to make a public declaration of commitment.
Denying civil marriage to same-sex couples is a grave injustice, to be sure. However, current inequality in laws regarding civil marriage for same-sex couples does not necessarily make religious marriage unattractive to same-sex couples.
Episcopal clergy are not supposed to, due to a policy adopted at one of our general conventions, but it’s been known to happen. And unless your state permits gay marriage - and right now, that’s just in Mass. and, depending upon the outcome of current litigation, in California, IIRC - such a ceremony would have no legal force and effect.
Quakers often will, but it’s up to the individual meeting. It’s been no problem in any of the meetings I’ve attended. In fact, I went to a Big Gay Quaker Wedding this past summer in IL (note that the state doesn’t recognize that.) Meetings that are part of Friends General Conference are likely to be cool with gay weddings. Some meetings are indistinguishable from other evangelical churches, and they probably won’t be so cool with it.