Well, I think after all this discussion, we’re where we started. Our rules prohibit hate speech, but not other forms of disparaging or offensive language per se, but only in context.
The easiest example to work with is the a term like “fuck” which is pretty offensive to many, many people. We certainly do not prohibit use of the word as a word. We do prohibit it as a personal insult (outside the Pit), because we don’t allow personal insults, regardless of whether the language used is off-color. Similarly, I think, with regard to racial or ethnic slurs. They are not polite language, but their use is not prohibited unless the context is a violation of other rules. That is, they are not “hate speech” in and of themselves, such a ruling depends on the context.
Those of us who try to be extremely polite, try to avoid racial and ethnic terms that are offensive to others. Those of us who don’t give a shit, use them somewhat freely. And the Boards are open to both groups.
I disagree with your interpretation. The topic was supposed to be about fashion, and a discussion of whether the term was degrading or offensive started up in post #6. A few posts about the use of the term would have been fine, such complaints (and rejoinders) appeared in posts #7, 9, 11, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 22, 24, 28, 31, 33, 34, 35, 36, 39, 41, 42, 43, 45, 47, 49, 51, 52 and 55… and then I said, “Please stay on topic” in post 61. So, I don’t think I’m sanctioning the term, nor was I preventing discussion of the term within that thread. That hijack discussion was a relevant tangent for a while, and went on quite a long time before I said, “OK, back to topic.”