When I dress sexy, it’s about the way it makes me feel and the excitement it helps create between me and my husband. Anyone else’s reaction is secondary, but it’s certainly fun to get a few looks.
I’ve never heard the term “whore heels”. Fuck me pumps, yes. And I associate with women who wear much higher heels than what you’re describing on a daily basis.
The girls at my daughters Homecoming dance this year and last were mostly wearing these type heels. They’re “in” I guess.
I think that Amazon shows best selling in each category, if so here is the page for women’s pumps.
A lot of the shoes on the page are the type I’m referring to, and what the girls are wearing.
Those are kind of high, but otherwise look like normal heels to me. The way you were talking, I figured you were referring to stripper heels like these…http://www.snaz75.com/all-6-inch-heels.html. Those are what I picture when I hear “fuck me pumps” or your term. FWIW, I wouldn’t wear stripper heels anywhere but the strip club. My going out heels are more like…http://www.ninewest.com/Freespirit/8542932,default,pd.html?variantSizeClass=&variantColor=PLPLTFB&cgid=8346258&prefn1=catalog-id&prefv1=ninewest-catalog
Those aren’t hooker shoes…
Yeah, those look similar but higher than most I see around here.
The kids tell me that the platform makes 6" really like 3". 
Hey! Those are listed as Sexy Shoes! 
Oh, they’re absolutely right about that. Platforms make all the difference. What makes a shoe uncomfortable is the arch of the foot. With platforms you get the height without nearly as much arch, so it’s more of a balance issue than a foot torture issue. That’s how strippers can wear those crazy 8 or 9 inch heels, it’s all platform.
I think that a sister poll needs to be made:
Women who only wear sensible shoes do you wear them:
- To advertise you are available to other women
- because you don’t have the self esteem to pull off anything else
or - other
Because it would be similarly inflammatory.
(I wear them because I look good in them and they are often appropriate with the clothes I’m wearing - which are often career professional - and sometimes just “out with my husband for a date night” - and yes, sometimes that involves FMHs. And very often I wear flats and sensible shoes.)
Oh, you poor thing.
Well this was an interesting thread, and now i have to clear my browser history before someone uses my computer and makes assumptions about why a single dude was looking at 25 sites worth of Women’s shoes.
You do realize there is kind of a huge difference between “fuck me” and “whore,” right? Whore is (rightly or wrongly) usually used as a pretty vulgar insult for women. “Fuck me” implies that, well, you’d like to have sex- which is something that the vast majority of women can relate to.
As for dressing sexy- actually, yeah, I do dress sexy for myself. I enjoy having sex. One thing that makes sex more fun is being sexy.
I look at a woman tottering along in high heels, and I don’t think of sex, I think of twisted ankles. They offend me as an engineer. They are poorly designed and unstable, and are as inherently offensive as any other poorly designed and unstable thing.
Luckily we don’t rely on engineers to determine what is sexy.
..what is sexy on women. What a sexy woman rides in is another matter.
3-inch heels are “horrifically uncomfortable”? How do people walk in them? Um, not everyone suffers from tremors, is a 65-year-old, or is a klutz with the ankle strength of a toddler.
As a former ballet student, I have got to say that if I could dance in pointe shoes made of hardened canvas and glue and do so at the tips of my toes while executing 10+ fouettes, I honestly find merely walking in 3-inch heels to be very simple and not at all discomforting. I reiterate: merely walking? Child’s play. No one is dancing Act III of Swan Lake in those.
I wore 3 inch heels to my junior high graduation (I guess a 12 yr old valedictorian whore is possible) and with my below the knee skirt and general air of earnestness I looked and acted absolutely correctly for the occasion.
I suppose any shoe can give a sexy air if your attire and/or attitude matches.
Also, how about the region? What crosses the line from strong-sexy to slutty-sexy changes. I know my hem lines have to get lower when I travel from the West coast to the mid-west, for example.
A tip for those whose shoes hurt, can’t walk or run in heels-- keep shopping, usually at better stores, and get to know a cobbler who rocks. Taking care of your feet, mobility/posture, and footwear are a process, not so much a one-time event. They’ll reward you.
Can you tell I loves me, my beautiful little shoey friends?
Google Image search for ballet dancer’s foot. Not for the faint of heart.
Yup, so like I said, if people want to make something out to be an endeavor, try dancing with pointe shoes. Merely walking in heels is nothing in comparison. Child’s play.
To be fair, there is a learning curve with heels.
I swore up and down I “couldn’t wear heels” and refused to do it. Then one day I decided, “screw it. Other women figure it out. I look like a college kid wearing flats with my suit. It’s time to learn to wear grown-up shoes.”
I bought a very nice (and fairly pricey) pair of stable three-inch heels from a shoe designer known for his excellent craftsmanship. I had the help of a dear friend, who is a professional shoe salesman, who went through a lot of work to find me the best pair.
Well, for the first week or so, it hurt like hell. I’d be hobbling around, taking tiny steps, praying for the time when I could finally take them off, and dreaded even short walks down the hallway- all the things that had convinced me before that heels were the devil. But I kept it up. After a couple weeks, I could wear them in daily life without too many problems. After a month, i was at full mobility.
I now know these shoes as my easiest, most comfortable shoes and they are pretty much my go-to for most occasions. They don’t hurt me or bother me at all- and I often walk several miles in the course of a day. They aren’t sneakers, and I am aware of that when I wear them all day or walk more than a couple miles in them. But as long as you aren’t expecting them to feel like sneakers, they are perfectly fine everyday shoes.
I now have a small collection of nice, professional, sexy, cute heels that I adore wearing.