Why do we let children participate in fights that would otherwise send an adult to jail?
When I was in school, there was lots of bullying. Sometimes there were just arguments. Whatever the cause, it often led to fights. Kids 7 years old would be punching each other in the face until noses were bloody and broken. If the parent of the losing kid was present, they’d usually intervene… but teachers, or other adults, would just look the other way. I’d hear things like “kids need to learn to take care of themselves” or “stand up for themselves”. Even when extremely one-sided bullying was present, they’d let the victim get beat up, knowing full well what is happening, where, when, and by whom. Nothing proactive was ever done about violence.
Why do adults/teachers let this go on? Is there a policy among teachers to allow kids to beat each other up without intervention? Is this something you learn in child psychology when you are training to become a teacher? If so, can someone explain it’s benefit and purpose? (At this point I should say that teachers standing around while a kid gets beaten bloody ALWAYS seems to happens outside. A fight in a classroom is ALWAYS broken up, even if reluctantly. I assume there are legal reasons for this?)
This is all really mystifying to me. What are we teaching our children by letting this go on? What are we saying to them about how they should behave as an adult? A kid gets his toy broken/stolen, and instead of intervening and dealing out justice, teachers let them beat on each other. Right. So when the child becomes an adult and someone hits their car, breaks their iPhone, or damages some of their property, they’ll know the right thing to do: Instead of calling the police, they’ll take justice into their own hands. Because you know, the police (aka authority) don’t really care anyways! (Wonder where they got that idea from!) Some parents say they want their children to “toughen up”. Why? Do want them to grow up into adults who physically assault others as a way of resolving disputes? You want them to have no respect for authority?
Can some adults/teachers please explain why they allow fighting to go on?