You guys have danced around it, but also please do not forget the huge ego it takes to be in the entertainment biz. In my experience most couples, while hopefully having an equal partnership, often have a give and take, pros and cons, strengths and weaknesses within the seperate personalities. When you take two people with huge egos and careers that hinge on said egos (at least in part), I think you bring about some extra problems that John and Jane might not often deal with.
Say you’re Brad Pitt and you marry Jennifer Aniston and you’re both at the top of your game. You both pull in hella bank, you both have off-the-charts face recognition and you’re both pretty. Now suppose that for whatever reason (and there need not be one, being Hollywood) two years later you can’t get a job selling tickets at a movie theatre. What do you do? Now you’re Mr. Jennifer Aniston and you want to scream at every turn, “I used to be a player!” Your money is gone, your job security is a laugh and your wife makes five mil for filing her nails.
Some people can take it, for sure. Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward spring to mind as two people that started out on the same playing field career-wise and then watched one take off and one never quite make it. Gods bless Ms. Woodward, she’s carrying around her own Oscar, but she’s no Paul, right? Not only do you have to fight tooth and nail to get what you want, but you have to compete with your mate, too. And if you manage to not feel you have to compete, you’re still going to be perceived as such by the media.
And the damn media. No matter how much you trust your husband, if you read in People magazine once every three months about who he’s been seen with, how long until it starts bothering you. Just a little?
Nym - who as an actress has a long history of dating computer geeks behind her