Interesting theory.
I’ve gotten the flu shot every year since 1986 (the year my asthma, largely at bay for years, became an ongoing concern again). That year, the flu shot was a double one - two different shots. I felt wretched off and on for several days. Every year since then, the worst I’ve had to deal with was a sore arm.
The one year I had the flu DESPITE being vaccinated was in the late 1990s. I was only in the “I’m afraid I might live” zone for 12-24 hours - may have been milder due to the vaccine, or I may just have gotten a “mild” case. After that, I did have a bronchitis / asthma flare, which could have landed me in the hospital if untreated - but most people don’t have that component, so we’ll ignore that.
My husband also got flu that year - and felt wretched for 24ish hours, then was slowed down another day or two. So, another mild-ish case.
Compare our reactions to the COVID shot, though: we both had Pfizer, and have gotten boosters. Me: 1) sore arm (took some Tylenol on day 2); 2) sore arm (no meds needed), 3) sore arm (no meds needed). Him: 1) sore arm, felt under the weather; 2) sore arm, felt really under the weather, 3) sore arm, felt bad enough to go to bed for a day.
Sample size of 2 - but similar reactions to flu shots, similar severity of flu case, very different reaction to COVID vax.
I asked my doctor about my very mild reaction to the Covid shot, as I was worried this meant it hadn’t worked as well for me. She said that studies are showing there’s no correlation between reaction severity, and immune response to the vaccine - quite a relief for me.
My personal theory re side effects - based on nothing scientific, of course - is that at least for some people, it’s because this is SUCH a new pathogen to the body, and the immune system basically screams “ZOMG STRANGER DANGER STRANGER DANGER DEPLOY ALL TROOPS!”. Mine, on the other hand, sits back, puffs on a stogie, and mutters “Yeah, yeah, another new virus, I’ll throw some bleach on it and get on with my day”.