Tarantino is a very skilled writer director, but he is also a bit of a movie fanatic. These things create an unusual temporal phenomenon.
For contrast, consider Kevin Smith. He is also a huge movie geek, but he’s not super duper skilled as a director. I’m not saying his movies are bad, I just mean (and he’s admitted this) he’s by no means an envelope-pushing director. So, when he makes his geeky movie-reference movies, they are funny and appealing to fellow geeks but not masterpieces of film, so they stay in their niche.
Tarantino, on the other hand, is very good at the art of directing. So, when he makes his geeky movie-reference movies, they are exhaled as masterpieces by everyone and expand beyond their niche. After a few years of this, he’s basically been given a free pass to do whatever he wants. So he can write and direct movies that might only make sense to him, but since he wraps them in enough references and pseudo-satire, they are generally well-loved.
I never really understood him until I recently saw True Romance. He didn’t direct it, but he wrote it, and it’s sort of what launched his career. Watching the film, knowing Tarantino wrote it, is very telling. It’s about a late-20s schlub who works at a comic book store and could talk about them all day, and watches old kung fu movies and could talk about them all day, but who is somehow so charming that a woman falls so madly in love with him after a few hours of listening to him talk about comics and kung fu movies, despite his lack of money/ambition/skill/practical knowledge, that they are married within days. Can you say ‘wish fulfillment’? Tarantino basically wrote himself into a world where all of his nerdy quirks are, fantastically, exactly what every beautiful woman wants.
The rest of his career is just that. He makes movies that take place in a fantasy inside his head where the things he likes are the most important things in the world. For this reason, most movie nerds love his movies, because they so long to live in that fantasy land as well.
So to answer the OP’s question, you not “getting” Tarantino films doesn’t really say anything about you except that you’re not a nerd who seeks out that fantasy world.
As far as the gore, I think the best way to classify it is to say it’s “ironic.” The quotes around “ironic” are necessary, to connote that the word ironic itself is being used ironically. It’s “ironically” gory. A statement upon or a reference to a concept that doesn’t exist.