Back to C.S. Lewis, who said that with each moral choice, we are changing ourselves. I am roughly paraphrasing here, but we are all gradually becoming either a thing of horror you would meet in a nightmare, or a being you would be strongly tempted to worship. See - “Hell” is this world; “hell” is the place that is not-God. So you stay attached to the not-God, or you elect to cut ties - to become enlightened - to move into God. God is the same no matter what you choose. God’s love is ardent - burning - intense - infinite; the people who have elected to move Godward experience this as love. The people - maybe Hitler, for example - who don’t, experience the very same love of God as shame, guilt, horror, torment, damnation. They wander the golden pavements of Heaven and complain that the bricks hurt their feet, the goddamn choir is annoyingly loud, and God just won’t ever leave me the fuck ALONE, goddammit!
I have a pet theory that the best way to understand the crucifixion is something like this. God, who is infinite in every way, including selflessness, wanted to express that selflessness by sharing his perfection with others. But if you’re God, there are no others. So God had to create a condition of not-Godness. He had to, in a sense, produce a small part of his “spiritual body” that was necrotic - dead, because he is life. He knew, however, that in doing such a thing - and populating it with creatures that would live in it so that, in due time, they could experience all he wanted to share of his perfection of knowledge, love, wisdom, peace, joy - he would be doing something morally reprehensible and deserving of punishment. God had to die: both to create the condition of “not-God” and to simultaneously atone for the sin of doing so. So God - since spacetime means nothing to him; the kosmos/multiverse/whatever is only a mathematical point to him - got himself incarnated in 1st century Judea, roused a lot of rabble, got himself executed by the Romans - and then rose again, because he is life itself. Bob’s yer uncle - two problems solved at one fell swoop.
Now, IMHO, this helps to explain a lot. God died for our sins, yes - in the sense that he is ultimately responsible for them. In not-God, where we are, science operates normally - cosmology, evolution, what-have-you. God is not observable, nor provable, because we are in not-God. This also, to me, explains suffering. In another thread, someone said that the first, and last, reason why they can’t believe in God is terminally-ill children. OK: in a standard, atheist. materialistic universe, yes, the idea of terminally-ill children sucks, because they are innocent, sick, and they die. But then, that’s it. Utter hopelessness. But if God is on the cross while they are in the hospital - he suffers more than they do, because it’s his fault. They get to move into God when they die, because his sacrifice saved them. God’s suffering is paradoxical and multivalent; seen one way, it’s nothing to him, because, well, uh, GOD; seen another way, it is infinite, as he himself is defined to be. We shall live with him, if we suffer with him.
I’ve elsewhere declared myself to be a non-traditional theist; I suppose I’ve just outed myself as a non-traditional Christian. Amen.