I think it’s a bit of a double-edged sword. A a place of employment shouldn’t be an impersonal dystopian cubicle farm of interchangeable carbon blobs any more than it should be a cult that demands undying loyalty and devotion. But therein lies the irony IMHO. With a lot of these tech companies, particularly startups or high profile places like Google, there is a shared sense of purpose. People who tend to work there don’t think of it as “long hours and higher commitment”. They think of it as their success is tied to the company and the companies success is tied to them.
Personally I would rather work somewhere closer to that than at some impersonal cubicle farm where people come in, don’t interact, do their specific tasks assigned by their direct manager, then go home at 5. Because those are the sort of places where one day you receive a termination notice because some anonymous Sr VP three levels up needs to shave some money off his balance sheet for next quarter.
But a lot of these tech companies do run like cults. And look at people like Elon Musk or Mark Zuckerberg. Steve Jobs too before he died. Those guys are weird AF. Musk is probably autistic. Zuckerberg himself barely passing a Turing test. They are brilliant technologists, but don’t seem to understand shit about people. Or more accurately, their understanding is limited to mimicking behaviors that they can monetize.