I’m trying so hard to understand this, but I’m so annoyed I can’t be rational. The Background: I work two jobs. My boss at my Little Job used to work for one of our stores in the Big Job company, in the same position as me, at a nearby location. Her job at Little Job is in jeopardy…she has received a 30-day warning. I happen to mention that the manager at the Big Job location she used to work at was fired…she asks me to call the Big Job Regional Manager and tell her she’s interested in coming back and would like that job.
I do this, interviews are arranged and held, and then she keeps asking me (a lowly underling in the Grand Scheme) “have you heard anything from BJRM?” So finally, ear pressed firmly to the grapevine, I hear that she is going to be offered the job…in fact, they are pretty much already referring to her as the new manager of location X. So since she’s on a day off, I figure she’s been approached and hasn’t called me yet. Remember, she’s been pestering me for days “have you heard anything?”
She comes in to work at Little Job, and I, confident in my knowledge, innocently ask HER, “did you hear from BJRM yet?” to which she replies, “uh, yeah, and I turned it down”. Now this is a woman who for days has been discussing how great it’s going to be to be back at Big Job, strategies for working with the staff, how wonderful the hours are at that location (the best hours in the region…no nights, no Sundays) and how she can’t wait. When she originally left Big Job, she left for significantly more money…she knows how much Big Job pays, and also knows that she’d be going to a location that may be closing soon, has much less volume and responsibility than any other location…my God, she used to work there! She had to know the money wasn’t great, but it was way better than what she’d get on unemployment, and now there are only 20 days left at Little Job…
I am so stunned. She says it’s because of the money and “other things”. I counter with, “but you don’t have to stay there forever…and it’s easier to get a job when you have a job…much easier than if you get fired from Little Job…and you’ll get to spend more time with hubby and baby…and we need you there…and I recommended you, and you wanted it…” all to no avail. Her husband has a good job…certainly a drop in income is an important consideration, but unemployed is worse than less money, and I’ve been surviving on my own on that kind of money, with two teenagers for years…I don’t have the security she has. Everyone at my location of Big Job is stunned…my coworker there is her former manager! This is a close-knit group. And the worst part is, since she is not taking the job, our Big Job location is going to have to help out at that Big Job location (we’re the closest) which makes our lives more difficult, and I’ll have to deal with a new boss at Little Job since she’s only got 20 more days! AND I feel like a putz for recommending her. AND my coworkers are ticked at her. AND everbody had been so glad we were going to have a trained, experienced former employee running that store as opposed to a total newbie who’ll mess up like the last total newbie.
So now that’s off my chest. I know she probably has good reasons, but I feel like I’m dealing with an irrational situation…guess my personal months of unemployment left deeper scars than I thought.