Do you think there is one out there for everyone? Or are there some people that should realistically never expect one? I’m starting to think there just isn’t one for me.
Some of you may remember my previous difficulties in this matter, and recently I’ve been having some very negative thoughts. But the fact is I’ve started to believe that in my case maybe it was just never meant to be.
I can’t say I’ve had NO experience at all. I’ve always wanted to score imps in the real world. But the truth is, I’m 36, and I’ve never “done it”—except anonymously on-line. True, Los Angeles is a huge city, but nobody I know is interested.
There was a very brief time when I met someone on-line (actually, ALL of my experience has been on-line, to tell the truth). She was an Argentinean girl—let’s call her “Patricia.” When we first met, I could tell we were compatible, and though both of us were “beginners,” when we declared, we usually made game, and sometimes top board. When she was logged on, I’d meet up with her and we’d play and chat. Things were very relaxed. She didn’t speak much English, but that was OK. If things didn’t go well, I would always just say, “nnp,” and we’d continue—and when they did go well, I could always say “Bien hecho, p!”
With her I thought I’d finally found my perfect partner, when suddenly she changed her card. She said she didn’t want to play weak 2s anymore—she wanted something “mas tradicional.” And I was just starting to think about using my saved up vacation time to go to Buenos Aires to do a tournament with her. I was willing to pay for everything, and I started to hint at it online—but I think she thought I was just joking, and was making fun of me all along. That’s because I was online three months ago, and she jumped into an ops position with me, aggressively competed with my bidding up to my six-heart slam, and then doubled.
The result was humiliating. I went down three tricks—minus 12 imps. The only thing she said after was, “nto, gtg, chao,” and then logged off.
I think maybe the situation is hopeless.