re: false premises and unfounded/flawed generalizations – the most important flirting/courting behaviors to watch are those of young teenagers. Not adults in their thirties with several relationships under our belts or middle-aged people describing their ongoing relationships and what makes them work.
The ugly template still has a powerful social effect if everyone gets pressed (and impressed) by it to an extent while they navigate the path from child to sexually active adult.
I’d love to hear that the double-standard and an insistence on polarized behavioral sex roles is no longer a relevant part of teenagers’ sexual coming-of-age. But I’m inclined to think I should not as of yet start holding my breath for the announcement.