I happened across a paper on the psychology of child bullies in Japan, once, when I was in college.
What the researcher had determined was that the best predictor of becoming a bully was whether the kid thought that he had opportunities and choices when he grew older. And that was largely based on how others treated him. If his parents and family were like, “Taro, you’re an idiot. Don’t bother trying at school, you’re not going to get anywhere, anyways.”
And that would convince Taro. It didn’t convince him that he was an idiot, but it did convince him that no matter what he did, it wasn’t going to change what people thought of him so he may as well live up to their expectations and be the very person that everyone viewed him as.
People absolutely hate it when you dismiss what they’re telling you, when you’re forcing them to be someone that they don’t hold themselves to be, and when they know that they’re being railroaded into something that society has already set aside for them.
So I can tell you now, your decision to disbelieve people when they told you what they believe, and replace it with your own view, is exactly what has brought you MAGA.
If you look at surveys of racism, they improved, improved, improved, all through the country - including the middle and rural parts of the land. Racist people were - at least in everyone’s own mind of themselves - effectively eradicated. But what did that bring us, so far as everyone in the countryside could see? Every TV show and movie would show some person from the city going 10 feet into farmland and getting hit with KKK wannabes and incest babies.
Glenn Beck and Tucker Carlson created the world that you see, today, because the left chose to disbelieve what people were telling you, found your strawmen and amplified their message, and spent the rest of your time vilifying anyone who had a different view of how to repair things and telling them to just listen to Beck and Carlson to find out what they should really believe.
People can and do legitimately believe that you can’t pass a law and make racists disappear. All you can do is shut down laws that are racist, and give people the opportunity to prove themselves. That was true, before billions of dollars of TV spending and decades were spent to crush that viewpoint.
Sure, there will be racists who get in the way of certain individuals accomplishing their utmost sometimes but the more that people prove themselves against those racists, the more that racist ideologies are disproved and shrink in the eyes of all witnesses. You truly defeat racism. The more that people see government agents rushing in and putting their boot on the neck of every business owner, teacher, and dean to force through people who maybe have / maybe haven’t proven their true abilities, the more doubt that there is that everyone really can succeed on their own merits. The more that you just give racism the cover that it needs to keep alive and take over again - like it has.
And that’s the worst case. Most people will go to places that treat them fairly and be able to do as well as they should.
A lot of Trump’s followers do wrong every day by hearing the guy say things like, “I would sell you out to the highest bidder to get the Presidency.” And deciding that he’s just joking. And a lot of lefties did wrong for many decades by doing the same to Republicans, refusing to listen and replacing what you were told - simply and honestly - with your own imaginary, unpredicated fantasies.
You have reaped as you have sown.