Define “rudeness”.
Some people think it’s rude to wear your shoes in the house. Other people think it’s rude to take them off.
Some people think it’s rude to say “piss” or “damn” in public. Other people think it’s rude to tell them they can’t say what they want.
Some people think it’s rude for young people to ever challenge their elders. And/or for workers to ever challenge their boss. And/or for anybody to ever challenge their preacher.
Agreed. And I think it’s well worth wrestling with in fiction and in theory before we’re able (if we ever really are) to do so in practice.
Not sure it’ll make much difference, though. All the science fiction I read about virtual reality before we started getting close to being able to produce it was horror/warning stories. Advances toward the real thing seem only to have changed that attitude.
What I would like to do, if we could, would be to eliminate the ability to enjoy causing pain or fear in another human/sensate creature. Not the ability to cause it – doctors and veterinarians among others need to be able to do so; among lots of others, actually – the child or the cat doesn’t want a shot but may need one, even though it hurts and it scares them, so anybody in charge of either one needs to be able to cause that pain and fear. And not the ability to take pleasure in being able to do one’s job well, even if that sometimes involves inflicting pain or fear, because otherwise we won’t get any doctors or veterinarians. Only the ability to take pleasure in the pain or fear itself.
Some people already don’t have this, and many of them are still able to be rude when it’s useful, or aggressive when it’s necessary. So I don’t think it’s essential for being an effective human, even when defense is necessary.
But it would end bullying. It would end rape, which would drastically upend human society, for the better. It would end some forms of animal abuse, though not the ones that occur through ignorance. It might even end voting for [fill-in-the-blank] specifically because it’ll hurt other people, even when that’s only a subconscious part of the reason.
Whether we’ll ever be able to understand the inside of our heads well enough to pull that off, I don’t know. Whether even if be become able to the people in charge at the time will want to do that is yet another question.