I’ve already decided, if you don’t come to mine, I’m not coming to yours.
This thread is reminding me of something Garrison Keillor said:
*“They say such nice things about people at their funerals that it makes me sad to realize I’m going to miss mine by just a few days.”
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I just sort of assumed everyone I know would already be dead.
Interesting replies. I won’t have this problem (not planning on dying).
I plan to enter “cold sleep”.!
Actually it ends there. Just die young. Not only will all your peers come, your parents and their friends will come too. My dad’s friend’s son overdosed at something like 23; his funeral had at least 500 people.
To answer OP’s question: it does sort of bother me if I think about it, although my first reaction was definitely “who cares, I’ll be dead!”
We have had a couple of poorly attended funerals in our family. My mother lived long enough that someof her brothers and sisters didn’t come because their children were to old to bring them. My wife’s grandmother not only outlived many friends and family, she was comatose for the last 8-10 years making no new friends.
I don’t know if I can afford to live that long.
I don’t expect there’ll even be a funeral when I die.
I don’t think very many people will attend my funeral.
The thought doesn’t bother me that much. But I wonder if it would make the attendees uncomfortable. I wouldn’t like that.
I’ve missed funerals because I live too far away and am usually too broke to skip work/afford the travel.
I can easily see where that would prevent friends and family from attending my funeral. In fact, because my loved ones are so far flung, I probably ought to opt for a very small, private funeral, and then a memorial when everyone can get together.
Of course, if my family members shrug, donate my corpse to the Body Farm ('cause they know I’d love the idea), and went out to Olive Garden for dinner, that would be okay, too. I would rather have evidence of their love for me while I’m here, than a huge production to prove it after I’m gone.
No, it wouldn’t. I’ve told people over the years I expect only 4 people to be at my funeral Mass and burial: a priest, a nun, the funeral director and the undertaker.
After reading a recent thread about longevity, which lead to a lot of internet surfing on the subject, I decided that I am going to break the longevity record by living to be 123 (or longer, I suppose, if someone breaks it in the meantime). On the one hand, that means that anybody who cared about me will be long gone. On the other hand, if I really am the oldest documented person ever, that should mean that there will be some publicity about my death, and at least a few reporters/photographers will show up.
I would be pissed if not many people attended! I work at a place, where we have lost a couple co-workers, etc., and it just galls me to NO end that people do not want to put themselves out by telling the bosses they want to attend,or don’t wanna lose pay, or for whatever reason they give! This is the LAST time you will deal with this person, as long as you are alive on this earth…for god’s sake…take some time out of your day/life to do this!! It is about the family left behind…and remembering the person themself! I think people that do not attend funerals/memorials are almost as selfish as people that take their own lives! IMHO!!
May you live forever, and the last voice you hear be mine.
Heck no. I won’t be there, either.
I think our burial traditions are idiotic. Most everyone I know knows how I feel. There is to be no funeral. I’m putting in my gorram will. I will cremated. No services.
If they all got together for dinner and had a moment of silence, that’d be fine.
I am alone. No family, no local friends. If I were to die in my sleep tonight it would be days before anyone even missed me.
Neither my mom or dad had a funeral, just straight cremation. I don’t even care if I get that much.
shrug The sooner the better, I say.
I don’t understand why people are talking about cremation as an alternative to a funeral. That makes no sense.
The FUNERAL is the ceremony whereby a person’s death is acknowledged and their life remembered.
The manner of disposal of the body is a technically separate matter. I’ve been to the funerals of lots of people who ended up cremated.
I personally do want lots of people coming to my funeral only because I’m putting a lot of effort into planning one hell of a funeral, one people will be talking about for decades. The ones who live to tell the tale, anyway.
I would expect my immediate family to come, unless we all died in the same car crash or something.
My mother’s relatives might come as well, but I wouldn’t care if they did or not.
I won’t be surprised.
Yeah, it would bother me, but only because it would be a funeral rather than a wake. I identify more with the Irish half of my family than the Half Jewish/Half French part, and it would piss me off if there weren’t lots of singing, drinking, and trying to make my dead corpse try to ingest some Jameson’s. Obviously, it wouldn’t bother me personally, since I’d be kaput, but that’s the way I’d like it in my mind’s eye.