A while back a friend of mine, M, was contacted on FB by an old flame from high-school. They are both in their late 40s
He told her that he and his wife had split up a few months prior, they had been together for 15 years and have a 12 year old daughter.
The two of them started talking and made plans to get together, he lives several states away. She is hoping they will rekindle the old romance and it will lead to a long term relationship.
One day she calls me up, mad as hell and close to tears because he ‘lied’ to her.
The lie? He always referred to his ex as his wife and she had just found out that they had never been legally married. She was furious that he ‘lied’ to her, and she was ending it now.
I said what lie? They were together for 15 years, longer than a lot of marriages, and have a daughter. Lots of people who live together refer to each other as husband and wife. I don’t see what the big deal is, I don’t know what difference it makes - except he is free now and doesn’t need to go through the divorce process.
Would you see it as a lie? A deal breaker?