Cite for the bolded parts? Or will you admit you’re talking out your ass?
As the man says: there’s no sex in the champagne room.
Would you fuck/date/marry an (ex)stripper/prostitute/phone sex operator/porn actor/other sex worker?
That is tragic. I’ve known fine people who have done porn, and honestly, what are they doing that many folks have done in their own bedrooms? The only difference is the presence of a camera. And if you have ever been photographed having sex, it could end up on line.
I can see facial recognition software, like that used in Google’s Picassa, applied to a huge porn site, or to the Usenet alt.binaries.erotica.* newsgroups, then applying the found faces to the rest of Google Images. I think we’d find a much larger percentage of the population than we suspect would show up in both. There are plenty of places where people post previously “private” sexually explicit pictures.
I’m not concerned with a persons past jobs as a model, adult actress, or even a prostitute.
People change over time. What a 19 year old might do is totally different when they are 30. I’m not passing judgement on any old life style or job decisions.
There were literally hundreds of men & women that appeared in early adult films in the 1970’s & 80’s. Most today live quiet lives, raising kids (or even grandkids) in suburbia. Like any industry (including hollywood actors) some got tripped up by drugs or alcohol.
My only concern would be getting a doctors test for STD’s. Any couple should do that before getting intimate. Takes very little time and there’s no reason not to do it. Certainly someone that recently left adult film or modeling needs to get tested.
I wouldn’t date someone currently working in the sex industry. STD’s being a big concern.
I’m trying to think of jobs that a past in adult films would be a problem
Public school teacher is the main one.
I doubt it would matter for a college professor.
There’s always deniability. Maybe a nurse at the hospital looks a little like an actress you saw in an old adult film. Would anyone really ask if she was the lady on her knees giving a BJ? Somehow, I doubt any patient would dare ask such a thing. The odds of being wrong would be too great.
Then they are not strippers, they are prostitutes. I don’t see what the problem is.
The thing is, a person working in porn is the less likely to give you an STD. They get checked far more often than any ordinary citizen. Sharon Mitchell’s Adult Industry Medical tests every professional on at least a monthly basis, nobody can work without a current test, they tend to only have sex with other pros and their mate - and Sharon has actually shut the entire industry down when a performer turned out HIV positive.
I’m trying to think of one where it wouldn’t.
It’s true that it might not be a firing offense in most fields, but it’s hard to believe it wouldn’t affect the attitudes of your coworkers. And even those whose attitudes were affected in a positive manner would probably not make your life more comfortable.
They don’t have to ask. It’s generally not that hard to trace down a porn star’s real name.
And count me in with Dio: that’s too many slashes with differing answers for each. And even those depend on circumstances.
But, in general, I try not to let people’s pasts bother me. As long as she’s healthy and I am sure she won’t cheat on me, it’s okay, I guess. If she is continuing in her profession, then, in my opinion, she would be cheating on me. I could maybe deal with a pure stripper who doesn’t give lapdances, but that’s as far as I can go.
Well, I’m assuming we’re talking about someone I’d actually want to shag/date/marry, who’d be reasonably well-balanced and not have the above-mentioned issues with sex as a commodity. Otherwise I wouldn’t want to date (etc) them regardless of their past work.
Current prostitution would be a problem. Some types of porn would definitely be a problem, some probably not.
Due to my current parenting situation, I’d rule out anyone working in any illegal field anyway. I’m not saying that all sex work is illegal - I’m talking about the ones that are.
I’m already married, so it’s a moot point. However, my feeling is, the person would be what mattered to me, not the career. If the person appealed to me, I’d have no problem with a sex industry career, because who they are would be what mattered. However, for that same reason, I would not be prone to overlook mental issues – a person with a fucked up mind would not be appealing to me as a soulmate.
I used to work for a porn site. Many of the models we had on our site were pleasant, sweet, nice, talented, regular people, just like anyone. We only rarely had anyone resembling the typically imagined porn star, though that was our deliberate policy to sidestep that mindset.
Anyway, I found many of our models to be charmingly fascinating and would happily form a relationship with any number of them, if I wasn’t such a creepy weirdo with no friends.
Marry a porn star? TOTALLY! That’s actually my plan.
Um… Once I win the lotto, of course. I’m flying to Cali to find the first one I can get.
Okay, seriously. I don’t know facts or stats about the stripper/hooker connection, but I’m not naive enough to dismiss it entirely. I guess I’d go for a nude photo poser if I wanted to be safe.
As long as they’re clean (verified by an MD*), I would consider a porn star. Once she’s retired. I believe there was a report on MSNBC investigating some aspects of the porn industry a few months ago where they interviewed an actress retired and moved to the sticks of (I don’t remember) Colorado and lives a regular life with a hubby and kids. Nobody knows who she is.
*=I’m not certain, but I believe HIV can lay dormant post infection for up to seven years before one develops symptoms. Or am I totally off base with that?
Hence the quotation marks. :rolleyes:
My experience (and I’ve done some research) is that the vast majority of strippers are not prostitutes - they do not have sex with the customers.
Like Alessan and Diogenes, I see a clear distinction between somebody who’s doing sexual performances (stripping, modeling, phone sex) and somebody who’s actually having sex (prostitution, porn acting). I have no major problem with the former but I think I would with the latter.
I’d also see a distinction between somebody who’s had sex for money in the past and somebody who’s currently doing it. I don’t have any major issues with who she screwed before me and why she did it. It’s what’s going on during the relationship that matters.
Moving out the relationship area and just talking about casual sex, why not? I’d have no problem fucking a porn star. Wouldn’t be the first time.
As others in the thread have said- yes to phone sex operator but I’d have to think about whether I’d agree to date an ex-prostitute.
Definitely this. No way in hell I’d date a “nude model”. But anal gangbangs? Count me in!
Stats are from the top of my head, but I believe you develop the antibodies in the first few weeks, median time to detectability is 13 weeks, 99%+ will test positive after 3 months, and the maximum amount of time is 6 months.
And these responses are terribly interesting. I see the point about lumping everyone together, but as someone who’s not very convincing at dirtytalk, I felt the inclusion of the phone sex operator was appropriate.
Honestly, this is my take from being a stripper for so many years. Sex work attracts a lot of interesting people, and a lot more intelligent people than others tend to think. I’ve known many sex workers with degrees, myself included. The thing about stripping (and most other sex work) is that you have to be able to relate to people of all kinds. And it’s difficult to do that if you are a moron. Even the high school dropouts I’ve known can carry on a conversation about all sorts of things.
I can’t really answer the poll because the idea of dating a male stripper or prostitute is too silly. It’s not really the same with guys. But as far as women go, heck yeah I think most are pretty datable. And hey, even if you don’t want to get serious they can be a hell of a lot of fun to be “friends” with.
There’s sex in a lot of champagne rooms.
I hate it, but it’s true. Sure, there are still clubs where things are pretty clean, but there are soooo many that aren’t.
Which is why AIM does the PCR HIV test.
Update: I just checked, and some asshole broke into their database and published it all, forcing AIM to close!
No, no, and no. Ew.