There are people out there who are the exact opposite of me who and can remember faces like nobodies business (I’m not great at it unless I see someone several times). You will quite likely pass under the radar until your face appears (for whatever reason) in a newspaper, web article, facebook etc. and then some memory savant who wanked to you back in the day will call you out. Also jealous friends from your old, wild days will narc on you. This has happened to teachers, day care workers, business women etc.
I think any time a person or group is working the acceptance angle, they’re going to run a fair risk to themselves (for better or worse). Heck, it’s likely why everyone else doesn’t rise up to do it all at once. It really is the nature of the beast when confronting what’s socially taboo.
You pretty much hit the nail on the head when you say brave, as that’s a word I had originally used, but then removed from my post because I couldn’t find context for it, at the time.
Yeah, if given the choice, I would prefer that either of my nieces did porn than got a tattoo. Semen washes off.
I’ve had good friends who have done porn, and they were good people both before and after.
Just as a reality check I think we need to acknowledge that even if we treat someone who has done porn with perfect respect and kindness, if the porn they did is publically accessible the image filter we have in our heads is instantly going to conjure up the scenario we saw of them porking, getting porked or with their lips wrapped around a cock. This is what a lot of people will carry around in their heads while meeting you if they know you have done porn.
Maybe it’s not fair but this is absolutely what’s going to be in the forefront of people’s thoughts about you. I’ve never met Sibel Kekilli personally but I have seen theGOT actresses hardcore porn scenesand when I see her GOT scenes it’s hard to get those images out of your head.
You owe me for that set-up.
Yeah, sorry, but I would. The porn industry is just so exploitative and objectifies all the men/women/farm animals who take part in it. I just can’t support that. Nor can I support anyone who fuels it.
Isn’t that what most of us do when we meet one of our ex-girlfriends? OK, maybe it’s just me.
Every industry objectifies and exploits whoever is in it - it’s just that the porn industry involves sex.
I might have some bias towards the quality of decision making if I didn’t know them that well. That could make me lose some respect. Mostly I think I wouldn’t though. I could also see respecting someone more.
I volunteered at a crisis hotline with someone who started stripping to finish college. It’s not porn but it’s on the continuum of sex work. We were close from all the talking about deep feelings and tears that tended to accompany the training. I was one of the first people she chose to tell about stripping. It really was her only valid option to not take a complete year off school. Her parents had basically cut her off just before school started with tuition due NOW. Her program didn’t really allow her to just take one semester off. We talked a loooong time.
By the end of that talk I respected her even more. Her decision to strip demonstrated personal courage, emotional self awareness, and determination. How could I not respect that?
It would depend on the quality of the porn film. Hell, I’d respect Adam Sandler more if he made more decent movies. Whatever happened to pride in workmanship?
We do have a pornographer on the Board, MikeSouth, who has started a couple of “Ask the …” theads, here and here. He’s sure known more than four, and I wish he would pop in and give his views, but he hasn’t logged on in seven months.
Myself, having known so many bargirls over the years and seeing how different they and the whole bar scene are from most people’s conception, I suspect it’s the same with porn actors. I have read follow-up tales of porn actors and actresses who retired from the life, got a regular job and seemed no different from any other neighbor.
That was a point I had brought up earlier before all the arguing started. There is all kinds of porn, and some of it is really terrible, pathetic stuff. But well-made porn is a delightful art, and it is not easy or cheap to make. If you’re going to do something, do it right!
I wouldn’t lose respect for them, and I know this because I have friends who make porn. And I never watch porn myself - does nothing for me at all.
Would I advise anyone to do it? No, because it has disadvantages when you want to change career. Not for any moral reason though.
BTW, it’s “a porno,” not “a porn.” “Porn” as a noun is uncountable and applies to the concept and the industry, not to individual items. (When you say “that’s a porn video,” porn is an adjective).
I checked your link and while I dont watch that show, the article said all of the actresses are playing some sort of “slut” role. The mistress, the prostitute, etc… Basically they will still be taking off their clothes.
Now I dont know if it was the industry who decided they should have those roles based on their past “experience” or what but it is interesting how its now how they are typecast.
But even regular actresses, once they do nude scenes are expected to keep doing them.
Of course.