See, the horrible thing to me is that women like aruvqan end up feeling like they have to defend their position on abortion because others call it stuff like “malevolent” and “evil.” In reality, NO ONE should have to excuse making their own decisions. For whatever their case maybe, it’s between them and if they believe in a higher power.
Because there are all kinds of scenarios that aren’t covered in the two listed by Aeschines or others by Guin. Some women realize they aren’t emotionally capable of caring a child after they’ve already become pregnant. In my case, I have lots of mental health issues and at one very deluded (insane?) moment in time, I thought having a baby might actually help to save my life, or at least prevent suicide in the form of me needing to be a mother to my offspring.
So, me and the soon-to-be ex-husband gave it a go or three and thank goodness, I didn’t end up pregnant. And it’s not just because of the example I outlined above. It’s also because, if in my moments of weakness and lack of critical thinking skills, I’d been able to conceive, having the availability of adoption wouldn’t have been either a solution for me, nor a balm for my soul. For my child would probably end up plagued with the same seemingly never-ending problems I have (going on close to 10 years now). Therefore, I won’t ever try again where I’d have to supply my own eggs. (I wouldn’t be opposed to surrogation though, but that’s tangential.) I can’t trust the chance, be raising s/he myself or someone else. It’s too much hell to ‘spin the bottle’ on fate over.
Does that make sense? Not every need explain. And let me tell you, if even there only reason is they just don’t wanna, then I believe that’s fine too. For I’d much rather be aborted, to be born to a parent who potentially hates, abuses or neglects me. Furthermore, although I think adoption is one of the most beautiful things in the world, it doesn’t always turn up roses and sunshine. You roll the dice and hope for the best, yet plenty of biological parents are awful, I’m sure they’d end up being more than a few that had to pay for the privilege.
What of the rights of said baby too? If they end up with a loving couple eager to add them to their family, how will they deal with what’s happened? I’ve had a couple of adopted friends and despite the wonderful environment and unconditional love surrounding them, they had a TON of questions and problems to work through. I’m sure that’s not true of all of them (or not even half, perhaps), but again, I do not understand someone else’s desire for another person to have a child that the first person has absolutely nothing to do with (except from a commentary type position) and the latter doesn’t want, regardless of cause.
I wouldn’t not want to be wanted. (Eek! That sounded grammatically terrible!)
[Aside: aruvqan, I’m so sorry you had to share your story to illustrate a concept to folks that don’t seem to grasp the fact that no matter how clearly defined the issue is, it’ll never come even close to black and white. Shades of gray, maybe, but I can’t ever see it being any better than that. But my biggest condolences go out to you for having to endure such difficulties. I hope, that in someway, your heart’s desire is fulfilled.]
Now, back on topic (hopefully). 
In the OPs idea, I see nothing technically wrong with it, except it has that Jack Chick feel to the whole “but if you’d rather let it live and we’ll keep it” theory that the mother would have never considered before. I’m certain that anyone in that position has weighed all possibilities and is making the correct choice for all parties (present and future) involved. 'Cause I think, by picking that option, it’s basically the same as what else is currently available. And if that isn’t viable to her, I can’t imagine that this would do the trick either. Just MHO.
On the other hand, I do agree that if the only issue is a women’s right to control her own body via that conclusion, then I don’t see how this idea couldn’t help. Unless the doctor used manipulation while offering other alternatives (like those places that supposedly do abortions end up being really a service that’s only aim is prevention, rather than education or assistance), then I’d say whatever she needs.
Last of all, back to my original hijack 
… Aeschines, you’re painting with a mighty wide brush there. Projecting on to ‘pro-choice’ advocates some of the adjectives that you’ve thrown around certainly won’t convince others to come over to your point of view or to challenge their own. Instead, they may just dismiss you as rabid (because of all the way over-the-top hyperbole) or very out of touch with reality. You came across, at least to me, as one who stereotypes without forethought. The labels you use are so pejorative, that it sounds almost obsessive.
Of course, this could be just the one hot button debates in your life and you aren’t coming across necessarily well in a written medium and I’m possibly reading more into than there is. But, I think one can have an opinion without denigrating or invalidating another’s choice by your own hang-ups, morals and judgment. If you really want to do well by children (and I’m not saying that you aren’t already, or haven’t, or will soon), then lend a hand once they’re here. THAT is when they need it most. Just give some respect and space to those faced with nearly impossible resolutions that will maybe never leave them completely at peace. That and try to hold back a bit on making it appear to be some vast conspiracy to encourage it as an alternative to other forms of birth control or something. I’m sure those operations are infinitely more expensive than a monthly prescription and are only used as a final resort. No one takes abortion lightly, most especially those who (have/have had/will have to) choose this preference over “life.”
I mean, it still carries a pretty huge stigma and it can be, as bombings and murders have shown, extremely dangerous. I can’t fathom a person who plans out an abortion just because they “don’t want to be responsible.” That sort of logic is reprehensible to me, although I’m sure there is a small percentage who fall into every category, making nothing unique. They may be out there, but I’d come closer to believing that’s an extremely tiny amount.
One more side of the coin to ponder. 
