Yes, I go to the same places, over and over and over. I don’t care if you don’t like my watering hole. yes, I go there many times a week, not to get drunk, but to have a beer (maybe two - :eek: ) and simply hang out, listening to music, flirting with other people, or even just to vegetate somewhere away from home. When you live in New York, and space is at such a premium, sometimes people can’t afford to shell out $60-100 each weekend to go to a play/schlep upstate to a second home they don’t have/hop in a car they don’t have/walk through the non-existent neighborhood park.
I like my routine. I get it out of my system, and then push on to other things, which things are probably also part of my routine, like perhaps a slice of pizza, a walk to the subway, and home. It works for me. It is not the ideal, but even if it were, it’s no business of yours. Having grown up miserable somewhere which has open space for days, in a big house with a family which tried as best it could to love me and raise me well, I happen to like my life for what it provides me with, things which I was deprived of from when I was younger. My routine is mostly satisfying to me. If it weren’t, I would change it. I’m certainly not afraid of change, having made a major change a few years back, throwing caution to the wind, and succeeding.
I appreciate that you don’t understand me and why my routine is what it is. But you have your peccadillos, and I don’t pick on you about them. Leave me alone.
I don’t pick on your habits of going to bed early, your unflattering wardrobe, your weight problem, your gas-guzzling vehicle, your boring, bland suburban lifestyle, so don’t tell me that I have it all wrong. People in glass houses…
nisosbar posts a strange and vaguely incomprehensible Pit thread. In other news, Generalissimo Francisco France is still dead; bears found to shit in woods. Up at six, astounding new breakthroughs on the religious orientation of Pope John Paul II.
Heh. I get it completely. Unless the person whe’s giving you a hard time about how you spend your free time is your SO, it’s really none of their business.
I, too, know whereof the OP speaks. I have my way of doing things, which I like, because it is mine, and if I did things some other way, it wouldn’t be my way of doing things, so I wouldn’t like it, because it wouldn’t be mine.
I think I can relate to the message in the OP. If you’ve got a routine that suits you, go to it. Just because it doesn’t suit other people and their way of going on, too bad.
But has someone in particular been having a go at you, nisosbar, or is your OP just a general rant against the machine, as it were?
Well, I guess I was inspired to get this off my chest when the other day, I was walking towards my watering hole in the East Village, and as I approached, these two guys in front of me started discussing what a hovel it is (what can I say - it’s cheap - and I do love cheap), and after pulling my jacket up over my head, I entered and began to feel a little resentful; something like, “yes, this is a hovel. You’ll never meet David Geffen here. If that’s what you’re looking for, you are in the wrong place. I like it, however. It’s cheap and I know the staff here, and they’re good to me. I like the music, there’s always something going on - it’s never empty (which is not always a good thing, but at least you’ll never be bored) - and why does the fact that this is such a stinky little place have to bother you? I didn’t ask you to come with me. In fact, it’s nice to keep a little mystery about myself - i.e., ‘if my wife calls, I’m not here.’ I don’t rip your favored boites de nuit - don’t rip mine.” Not that they were talking about me, but I just thought to myself, if they knew me better, they probably WOULD talk about me.
And it just got me thinking about lots of dumb, boring, repetitive things I do, and how people will sometimes editorialize about my choice/actions when they don’t realize that sometimes, I do those things for reasons which they don’t grasp. Like, for example, I live in New York, bad/expensive/crazy as it is, because it’s a very free environment. I don’t expect someone who didn’t grow up here or near here to understand that (because they’ve always taken it for granted), but if you grew up in the middle of the Midwest, it’s so liberating, and you’d know exactly what I mean!
Oh, and for good measure, back to Sweden with you! :mad:
