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Old 12-11-1999, 09:22 PM
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This phrase - "how ya doin'" is very common and I'm not sure how to reply to it. A few folks at work pass me in the hall and say it; I usually say "oh, okay, how you?" They say "okay" or "fine." But I'm thinking that it's meant only as a greeting and not literally. Respond in kind? Miss Manners once wrote that with formal introductions, when one person says "How do you do," it is not meant literally, and that you should respond the same. But "how ya doin'" is so casual,and uttered by acquaintances, that it strikes me as in need of a more meaninful response. This really started bugging me when an employee in my building whom I didn't know passed me in the hall and said it as she went by. It threw me because I didn't know her, and I glanced back as she kept walking. I muttered "hi." Later I thought that in that situation,it really was just a friendly way of saying hi, and it would've been better to say "how ya doin'" back. I was in the grocery store with my s.o. and when we walked up to the cashier at the checkout, he said it and she said it almost at the same time. It seemed kind of awkward to me. I get it from store cashiers a lot. I thought maybe I should just start saying it first and let the other person worry about how to respond. It may seem trivial, but I don't want to appear rude or socially inept, and that's how I feel sometimes when greeted this way. Why the hell can't they just say "hi" and be done with it. Do you use this greeting and if so, what kind of response do you expect?
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Old 12-11-1999, 09:32 PM
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I have two answers that I give. I can't take credit for coming up with the first, but I can't recall where I saw it.

They say: How ya' doing'?
I say: If I were any better, I'd be twins!

They say: How ya' doing'?
I say: Great, you?

Keep it simple. No one wants to hear a list of health or personal problems, it's just a little way of saying "hello".

I don't personally use this, because too frequently the person will stop and actually TELL you how their doing. Yuk. Instead, I say "Hi!". That's it!
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Old 12-11-1999, 09:33 PM
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I usually say "fine" on ordinary days. "Great" if I'm in a good mood. I'm feeling horrible or depressed, or in any mood that would cause friends to become concerned at the answer to the question, I usually just ignore it and hand the cashier my money.
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Old 12-11-1999, 09:35 PM
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Two almost simultaneous replies, both from Binghamton! How about that! Time to head back to the "fairly interesting" thread!
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Old 12-11-1999, 09:38 PM
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Just fine, and you?


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Old 12-11-1999, 09:39 PM
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It's really less formal than you think, and needs, I often just smile back or nod, maybe if I know the person I tap their arm. It's just a wkkp walking, keep talking kind of thing.
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Old 12-11-1999, 10:39 PM
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I say "I'm average." which often gets a smile.



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Old 12-11-1999, 11:01 PM
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Oh I'm sure you're above-average, Guanolad.
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Old 12-11-1999, 11:03 PM
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Sometimes I'll give it a "I'm so happy, I have to sit on my hands to keep from clapping". Other times it's the 'silent hello', where you look 'em in the eye and give that nod that says "You know how I'm doing".
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Old 12-11-1999, 11:23 PM
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For the first half of my day, I say, "It's too early to tell." After that, I usually say "Groovy."

No, really. I do. I'm not even being sarcastic.

Well, sometimes I am being sarcastic, but mostly, I really mean it.

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Old 12-11-1999, 11:28 PM
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Monday through Thursday:
"I dunno...is it Friday yet?"

Friday: "It's a good thing it's Friday"

Saturday & Sunday: "Get away from me or I'll sic the dogs on ya!"



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Old 12-12-1999, 12:30 AM
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Usually I just say something like "Well, I'm here. And, I think I'm alive. How are you?" or if it's really early I'll just say "I don't know, I haven't opened my eyes yet. Do my socks match?"
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Old 12-12-1999, 01:29 AM
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Super! Thanks for asking!
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Old 12-12-1999, 01:36 AM
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doin great here

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Old 12-12-1999, 02:01 AM
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I have a pulse. I must be ok.
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Old 12-12-1999, 04:57 AM
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If I know you well I'll say "Well, I'm still alive..."

If I don't, it's either "fair to midlin', and yourself ?" or "fine and you ?"
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Old 12-12-1999, 05:42 AM
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A pretty neat response I learned from my father is "About the same"

Leaves them thinking "About the same as what?"
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Old 12-12-1999, 07:34 AM
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My usual reply:

Wus up?

Others: I'm here. That's gotta count for something.

The silent guy nod is always an option, as well.

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Old 12-12-1999, 09:04 AM
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Old 12-12-1999, 10:06 AM
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I usually say either "I'm gettin' by" or "Fine, as long as the clock keeps going clockwise."

the latter is used mainly at work.

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Old 12-12-1999, 01:40 PM
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" Haven't missed a meal."

"Day late, dollar short."

"SSDD"
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Old 12-12-1999, 01:42 PM
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I say "I dunno, what did you hear?"
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Old 12-12-1999, 02:18 PM
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Blue Twylight! Have you seen my animals?
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Old 12-12-1999, 02:20 PM
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A great reply I had heard a few years back:

< In a slow Southern drawl >: Well, I feel like a million bucks, but I look like a refund.

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You say "cheesy" like that's a BAD thing.
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Old 12-12-1999, 08:00 PM
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"Wide awake, alert, and enthusiastic!"

That usually annoys.

My buddy the vet student always replies with "BARH", which among anyone but vets compels him to explain: "bright, alert, reactive, and hydrated", the shorthand for any normal animal when you're doing rounds.

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Old 12-12-1999, 08:07 PM
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"So far, so good."

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Old 12-12-1999, 08:24 PM
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I like "so far, so good." Brief, and doesn't require being perky. I just wish these people would stop saying it altogether. It happened again today in the grocery store, and even though I'd read these responses, I still replied lamely, okay. Call me a grump, but I don't care how THEY are doing so it just doesn't occur to me to say "and you?" I don't want to start up a conversation with the cashier; I just want her/him to scan the damn groceries and bag 'em so I can get the hell outta there. "So far, so good" doesn't invite a reply, so I'm going with that. Thanks everyone.
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Old 12-12-1999, 08:50 PM
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Mindless polite mode-"Alright, how're you?"

More myself-"Not done yet..."
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Old 12-12-1999, 09:31 PM
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"`Swell.

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Like the 'groovy' and 'neato' response, it elicits smiles. As a contraction of 'all is well,' it does answer the question without getting personal.

Peace.
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Old 12-12-1999, 10:30 PM
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Either:

Ok. How 'bout you?

OR:

Finer than frog fur
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Old 12-13-1999, 12:00 AM
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My hubby's favorite response, used only with good friends and family members

"How ya doing?"

"Fair to partly shitty"

Okay, I guess you have to be there...but it usually makes them laugh.


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Old 12-13-1999, 12:14 AM
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I like to say that I'm fairly okay, or to borrow from Carlin, I'm "moderately neato." I have a government job, though, so if one of my co-workers asks me how I'm doing, a reply is usually not necessary. A simple eye roll will usually suffice.
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Old 12-13-1999, 09:16 AM
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I answer honestly, which means my response can vary from "Great!" to "Shitty!"

If I'm in a recursive mood, I respond "OK, how are you doing?" Then I see how many times we can go 'round.
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Old 12-13-1999, 09:48 AM
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I don't treat this greeting any differently than others. I usually answer with a question: "how am I doing what?

2nd choice, especially if it's an obvious prelude to a favor: "I guess that depends on what you're about to say".

I'm more concerned about people who come up to me and bark "HEY!" as a greeting. This totally threw me until somebody told me that it's a favorite midwestern greeting. Until then my reply was "WHAT?"
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Old 12-13-1999, 09:51 AM
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I always like these:
"Mm, you?" (Mm in this case is just a little sympathetic noise, not like 'Mmmmmmm, delicious')
"I hear I'm fabulous."
and "I'm okay as long as you don't ask for details."
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Old 12-13-1999, 04:01 PM
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I respond to it just fine thank you.

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Old 12-13-1999, 05:21 PM
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I usually tell them the truth. This tends to break them of the habit of using "How ya Doin'?" as a substitute for "Hello." It also guarantees that I'll be left alone, which is what I usually want anyway.

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Old 12-13-1999, 10:27 PM
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Passer-by: How're ya doin'?
Neuro: Snarl.

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Old 12-14-1999, 12:00 AM
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If you're in a biker bar, the correct response is "Up yours, mate!"

At the office: "Do you want the long version or the short version?" Then watch your colleague run for cover.

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Old 12-14-1999, 12:07 AM
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Yup.
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Old 12-14-1999, 12:13 AM
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"I'm still a million bucks shy of being a millionaire."
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Old 12-14-1999, 12:56 AM
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"Fair to midlin', and you?"
"Fair to partly cloudy."
"Better'n some, worse'n others."
::muttering:: "I coulda been a contender!"


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Old 12-14-1999, 01:00 PM
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I rather like, "Swimmingly". It sounds so, I don't know, bouyant.
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Old 12-14-1999, 01:12 PM
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"Not bad for an old man"

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Old 12-15-1999, 12:41 AM
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I refuse to lie when asked that question. It's led to people I barely know being inundated with a conversation they never expected to be in, let me tell you.

In my old age, I have mellowed a bit, however. Now, if I ain't doin' all that well, an honest, "Lousy, but it's not your fault" is my comeback.

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Old 12-16-1999, 10:39 AM
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- I'm fine, how are you?

- Bacccch.

- Ahh, it's not Friday yet.

- Great!

- Fandiddlytastic!
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Old 12-16-1999, 11:04 AM
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With a bone-crushing punch to the nose.

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Old 12-16-1999, 11:38 AM
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How about this, then:

Having a good day, O Ukie One?

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Old 12-16-1999, 02:21 PM
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"Hangin' in there" or when down
"Better than nuthin'"
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Old 12-16-1999, 02:58 PM
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In my best Joey Trebbiani:
"How YOU doin'?"

Sometimes I say "Hi!" out of reflex, and then I feel stupid, thinking I just told that person I'm high.
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