SDMB a place for teenage love woes?

[MelCthefirst]

Since when did the pit become a safe haven for teenagers (or those married to them) with boy issues?
Come on, get back to the witty, goat felching and yet strangely literate and socially commentatorial anarchy of the pit.
Teenagers with love issues, talk to each other - don't post on the SDMB.

[Crunchy Frog]

Hey, Mel, do me a favor. Talk to Guin during 3rd period and find out if she likes me.

[Zabali_Clawbane]

Why don't you read a thread thoroughly first, before pitting the topic?

Here, I'll help you by providing the link. The thread was started because I was angry that my husband (age doesn't matter) would be subjected to more psychological abuse from his ex (age is not the issue) and this was not necessary, nor conducive to a peaceful wedding.

Now, be sure to read completely before you post any further. I'd make certain I comprehended fully too. Perhaps ask a polite question or two to ensure this?

As for the rest of it, what business of yours is it what age a fellow SDMB'ers spouse is so long as no laws are broken? Who the HELL are you, to decide what is moral and what is not?

I'd wager that you would not even realize his age, if you corresponded with him. He is very intelligent, and well grounded.

[Polycarp]

That's presuming that the OP is pitting specifically your thread, Zabali -- which, even given the reference to "or those married to them," is assuming something not necessarily true. Check out MPSIMS or IMHO over a month or two, and see if you don't find quite a lot of teenage love woes other than the problems in your family (which hardly seems to be the topic he targeted).

But, just as an observation, this is a community of people who find the fight against ignorance worth pursuing, and are amused and enlightened by the Straight Dope columns. The age limit is set at 13, not 21. I can point out four or five teens (Jester, Agentfroot and Priam come quickly to mind, although Jester is nearly out of his now, but has been a part of the boards through most of his middle-teen years) who rank in maturity, wit, and wisdom with the best of us. I fail to see why discussions of whether Davebear and his allies are satisfied with the quality of the fellatio they get (or in some cases give) is intrinsically more valuable than assisting someone through the painful process of growing up. And the most Pit-worthy, hateful situation anybody on these boards is facing right about now -- matt_mcl watching his father be consumed by a brain tumor -- is being dealt with in MPSIMS. If you're looking for entertainment and sardonic wit, try Don Rickles' web site, or find a Cecil column you haven't read yet or want to reread.

People post about what matters to them. Live with it. And contemplate whether you have anything worth offering them in trying to deal with it.

[Zabali_Clawbane]

I do offer my support on this board frequently Polycarp . My posting history will back this statement up.

I apologize if I "jumped the gun" in my previous post MelCthefirst . I ask your forgiveness for biting your head off.
I'll make certain to ask your intentions next time. Could you give examples of what you are pitting next time to avoid confusion?

Treaty?

[MelCthefirst]

Wasn't refering to anyone in particular - just seemed that there was a lot of it going around. I also love the fact that age is often irrelevant on the SDMB. I guess I meant that 'does-he-like-me-I-wrote-him-a-letter' type posts are teenage-esque, regardless of actual age.
Zabali - major chip on shoulder? It was the problems you were having that were interesting, not the age gap with your husband. My mum is heaps older than my dad - no problem there.
Polycarp - crikey, lighten up - mine is just a quick observation, not meant to down grade any board discussions.
Defensive!!

[Polycarp]

Mel and Zabali, no offense intended, nor real criticism -- just perspective.

I agree with you, Mel, that a small dose of the romantic-worries typical of teens goes quite a long ways. I took your post as a real rant, rather than just the get-this-minor-peeve-out comment that it turned out to be.

And Zabali, my sincere apologies for what must have seemed like ripping into you. Quite the contrary, I know from sad experience that often what seems to target one is actually aimed quite elsewhere, and picks you up, if at all, only casually and tangentially to the poster's real target. It was merely my intent to warn you off from taking personally what I figured was not directed exclusively at you -- and I overdid it. And yes, I've seen supportive posts by you, and should have complimented you on them before you needed to point it out to me!

If you'll notice, often a gay person will take a comment as much more critical than the person posting it may have intended -- because they're accustomed to getting such criticism. It's been my experience that a lot of teens get the same sort of flak, and react in much the same ways. And I figure that they're as entitled to talk about what matters to them as any of the rest of us -- including Mel's right to bitch about them doing it!

[The_Peyote_Coyote]

I talked to her CrunchyFrog, and she told me she would rather date a leprous toad.

[matt_mcl]

. And the most Pit-worthy, hateful situation anybody on these boards is facing right about now -- matt_mcl watching his father be consumed by a brain tumor -- is being dealt with in MPSIMS.

I appreciate it a great deal, Poly, but for the sake of accuracy I have to point out that Shirley Ujest has lost her brother.

[eunoia]

Originally posted by Polycarp
And the most Pit-worthy, hateful situation anybody on these boards is facing right about now -- matt_mcl watching his father be consumed by a brain tumor -- is being dealt with in MPSIMS.

That's a bit of an assumption as well. Change "facing"with "discussing" and you'll be addressing the OP directly.

[Crunchy Frog]

Originally posted by The Peyote Coyote
I talked to her CrunchyFrog, and she told me she would rather date a leprous toad.

Damn leprous toads get all the action! What I wouldn't give for leprosy! Not bad leprosy, mind you, but maybe just a little bit on every other Tuesday or something. Instead I'm stuck with these damn hives! Chicks just don't dig hives.

[Searching For Truth]

It's not just the Pit.
It's not always just the teenagers.
I don't like it anymore than you do, but that's what happens when you have as many members as the SDMB does. Before someone starts complaining, yup, some of my posts have been lame Stereotypical Teenager posts. But all of us have our moments- good and bad. There are plenty of young Dopers with plenty to share and much to contribute.

[Davebear]

Originally posted by Polycarp
I fail to see why discussions of whether Davebear and his allies are satisfied with the quality of the fellatio they get (or in some cases give) is intrinsically more valuable than assisting someone through the painful process of growing up.

Excuse me? Just having a bad day, or have I inadvertantly offended you? I'm assuming there's some reason for dragging my name into this.

[Guinastasia]

*shoots spitballs at the back of Crunchy's head*

I HATE Crunchy! I do NOT like him! Do you hear me? I so do NOT! Shut UP!

*keeps looking at Crunchy when no one's looking*

[MelCthefirst]

I actually started fancying Davebear after one of his threads - that man likes to please women!

[Davebear]

Originally posted by MelCthefirst
I actually started fancying Davebear after one of his threads - that man likes to please women!

Why, thank you, Mel! Was that your spitball that hit me in the back of the head?

[elf6c]

FWIW: I don't mind the real teen questions and relationship issues, but the fake pay attention to me threads (cough, cough Pajama pants girl thread) are annoying.

There tends to be a surge of the attention-whoring new posters when school lets out. Thank god for the Mods. . .

[Honeydew]

I think, no matter what age a person, if they are confused or hurt or just asking a question, then they should post. It hurt no-one, all you have to do is not read the thread.

If we all remember back to our teenage years, its a very hard time (hell I'm 35 and its a very hard time still !!!) and maybe if a "teenager" needs to post something, it could be that they don't have people in the lives they can open up to......

I wouldn't complain unless they were being nasty or insulting to someone else - then for sure, they deserve to be pitted for being assholes. But until then, there could be people who can help them out of what they feel to be a difficult, confusing situation.

My 0.02 cents.

[Honeydew]

Originally posted by MelCthefirst
I actually started fancying Davebear after one of his threads - that man likes to please women!

Everywhere that man goes, he gets compliments from women !!! He's like the Pied Piper

[Futile Gesture]

Originally posted by elf6c
(cough, cough Pajama pants girl thread)

Whatever happened to Payama Pants? I miss my fictional dose of young romance.

[if you don't know i won't tell]

Well, as a teen who has probably made teenage-esque posts, I apologize, it was not my intent to annoy anyone and will pay close attention to such things in the future. I too find such things annoying, even as a teenager myself, and am all for putting the annoying teens' heads on spikes. Even if it means my own.

[Drastic]

Trampled by wild stallions. Young love always ends in tragedy.

[elf6c]

Here ya go:

1. The Pit Thread where B.S. was "officially" called.

http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/...ama+pants+girl

Some unintentionally funny posts there by a few true believers.

2. And the real deal:

http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/...hreadid=111990

Hold nose and click link for the attempted snow job. Another thread that proves that you can fool some of the people all of the time, but not all of the people all of the time.

Enjoy!