What causes some doctors to listen intently to some patients, and completely ignore others?
My mom, husband and I all go to the same group family practice. Usually you see the same doc, unless they work you in then you see whoever is taking the walk-ins that day.
My experiences: 3 doctors, all male. One is great (my current one), one was decent, and one was just flat out evil.
My mom: both male and female doctors, all horrible. Just last week one sent her home with “either viral pneumonia or bronchitis,” according to him, with instructions to “just take some Ny-Quil and go to the ER if you spike a fever.” She’s spent the last week pulling muscles from coughing so much. (That’s just one of countless examples.)
My husband: both male and female doctors, all wonderful. They listen intently, ask lots of questions, thoroughly examine him.
So how do doctors decide if what you’re saying is worth listening to?
All 3 of us are overweight so I don’t think it’s a fat bias. (Although I’ve definitely had doctors in other places completely ignore the reason I’m there and spend the whole time talking about my weight.)
It can’t be a gender thing because I’m a woman and I have a doc that listens to me now.
I don’t think it’s education level, either. My mom is highly educated while DH and I are still in school. If it were education, it’d make more sense to pay attention to the educated patients, right?
Could it be illness level? My mom’s ill (diabetes and a really bad back). I’m healthy as a horse, DH is generally pretty healthy. Do doctors get sick of chronically ill patients and just tune them out after a while?
Is it ageism? The older the patient (mom’s 55), the less they supposedly know what’s best for them?
Finally, what can patients do to make their doctors listen?