I’m just curious what everyone thinks, and I’d be interested to hear the opinion of any medical pros too. I know of two people where lack of bluntness by doctors lead to shitty outcomes.
My niece died at age 18 from a stroke caused by complications from sickle cell anemia, she had almost non stop sickle events during her teen years.
Her parents thought when she was taken off the antibiotics when she turned 8? and the doctor was congratulating them on controlling it, they assumed this meant she is cured or at least no longer in danger. She saw numerous medical professionals in two countries up to her death and no one impressed on anyone the fact she had a terminal illness. Doing research later I thought it would have been a much better thing for a doctor to tell the patient or their parents this:
You have a terminal illness, assuming you don’t die in an accident or from something else it will eventually kill you. If you prevent and control sickle events well you can have an almost normal life span, if you don’t you will die much sooner.
I think that leaves no room for misinterpretation.
Second anecdote is my mother, which if you have read any of my threads you know what a whack job she is. But my sister attended doctor visits with her, so there is an independent view point. She has cancer and the doctor said they would perform surgery, but it was risky. He asked her to do a stress test first, and she declined saying she was too weak to run on a treadmill. The doctor then asked her to do some mall walking to build up her strength for it, and she declined saying she didn’t want to bother and it was too much effort. At this point he started making comments about how she had a long and fruitful life before telling them he was not going to perform surgery because she refused all his requirements and he did not think she was strong enough to survive it.
This shocked even my sister, my mom thought the comments about having a long and fruitful life meant he thought she was worth saving with surgery, and thought him asking her to do a stress test and mall walking was just general health recommendations like eat more veggies. My sister said even she did not understand that if my mom refused she would be denied surgery, as the doctor never bluntly put it that way that this was a requirement and not a suggestion.
I’ll admit my mom has always had problems picking up on subtle social cues and suggestions, which is why a blunt approach would have been better.
It seems that doctors trying to be coy and wanting to avoid scary words can lead to bad outcomes to me, and a blunter plain language approach would be better as they never know how much the patient knows about their condition or what their level of understanding of subtle language is.
Thoughts?