Ever known somebody about whom there was something weird, but you couldn’t quite figure out what it is?
I’ve spent the last two years being supervised by someone about half my age. I started working in our business before he was born. He seemed distant and aloof but not uncivil. I got a ride to work with him every day. In all that time, I learned very little about him, as he was not forthcoming with any information about his life beyond the small talk, and there was very little of that, so I never really got to know him.
Now, I’ve been having a difficult time at work for two years. All my important duties were given to somebody else, and I spent large amounts of time doing nothing. I could not get him to give me more work. I asked for it every few days. He’d always say OK, but it never happened. At the end of July, he called me in for a meeting and told me the GM said there wasn’t enough on my plate to warrant my being there for 40 hours a week, and she wanted him to cut my hours in half. He would get this hangdog look on his face, and tell me that he was trying to get her to change her mind, but there was nothing he could do. But he’d keep trying for me.
One day, about a month ago, he was removed from the premises and we’ve never seen him again. The only thing the GM said to any of us is that he had some legal problems to take care of, but he was banished from the property and we were not to contact him. Naturally, we’re all WTF??? No information whatsoever. In his job, he received no money or merchandise, so he wasn’t embezzling or stealing stuff. What can a person have done to get excommunicated from his job?
Yesterday, I was talking with two people from another department about chaos in our respective jobs. I mentioned that we didn’t have this person anymore, and the two of us left didn’t really know how to do his job ourselves, so with our limited knowledge of it, we were both keeping the place running. I mentioned how we were all in the dark about what happened to him, one day he just disappeared and is banished from the building. They asked what his name was, and then they both got this look on their faces, and said they knew but they couldn’t tell me, either. Then one said that I could find it out for myself, as it was public information, and told me where to look.
I looked it up, and the guy is a registered sex offender. The category under which he was convicted, in police shorthand, said “Sex bat / Phys helpless resist (principal)”. I don’t know how to accurately translate that, unless it actually means sexual battery where the victim was helpless to resist. Or maybe he resisted arrest, I dunno. Got any suggestions? In any case, the guy has beaten and raped someone.
This answers a lot of questions, but opens up a lot more. As it turns out, it was not the GM working against me, it was this creep’s idea to fuck with me. He gave all my important jobs to a kid, he told the GM there wasn’t anything for me to do, and it was his idea to cut my hours in half. It cost me and my wife more than $1000. And you know what? Almost all of my difficulties at work started when he got that job. He was playing me like a goddamned violin.
Now, earlier this year, he told us he had cancer. He was going to have to go get radiation and chemotherapy, and he was off work a lot. I have reason to believe now that it was all lies, to cover up the fact that he had to go to court and other related places. My mother had chemotherapy and radiation, and he didn’t look like a person receiving that kind of treatment.
I don’t know what else to add. I feel used, because I was used. Got any words of wisdom or comfort on how I can deal with this?