There is a new administrative assistant in my department, she is 40 something with 2 kids in a different state. I occasionally lunch with her and a few colleagues and at one such luncheon I found that she had an abusive boyfriend. I asked her why she stayed with him and she replies that she is waiting to have enough money to move out. Her family is in California, and she cannot move until her finances are in order. I shrug it off initially and carry on with my day.
Yesterday she comes in and I look at her as I do every morning to say hello - she looks up at me and half smiles. When I see her face I am appauled to see a huge black eye. Not just a bruise but a huge black and blue puffy eye.
She immediately puts her head down and I go over to her and ask her what happened.
“He beat me up last night…I fought back and got him good a few times, but he really belted me…I was seeing stars for a little bit after it happened. Look at my arms…”
Looking at her arms I was shocked. Bruises up and down both arms [on the outside as if fighting someone off].
I said well you are obviously leaving right? You are at a hotel or something close by?
Nope, she did not leave, she stayed with him and has no plans anytime soon to leave because most of her posessions are there.
:eek:
I cannot believe this, as she is talking to me I am in utter disbelief that she is actually sticking up for this fucking low-life. She sais she knew he didn’t mean it, and that she would be out of there soon enough.
I know that is not true, she has no where to go…
I am so torn up right now, she just walked by my office and didn’t even look in. I know she is in pain, I know she is in a tight spot, but she knows there are places she can go. I really do not want to get in the middle of this, I won’t, she knows how I feel. I know she is ashamed, and has absolutely no self-esteem, but come on now…How many coffee tables or sofas does it take to make a black eye OK?
I can’t help to be a little ticked off that she doesn’t use more resources around her.
WTF!