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09-23-2006, 04:37 PM
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I got hit on by a 10-year-old.
Before you read this, you should probably know that I just moved back to the US after being in Korea for the past 11 years. I was 13 the last time I was here so I'm suffering from a bit of culture shock at the moment.
Anyway. Yesterday I was waiting to cross the street when a boy, who looked around 10 but could have been a bit older, greeted me with a "Hey there." I was startled - initially because I am still not used to being addressed by strangers on the street, but also because said strangers have never been kids. But I managed to return his greeting. "Hey." "How you doin'?" "Um, okay, thanks." "You lookin' hot today." ".....  "Honestly, what the fuck? I nearly said to him, "I'm fucking old enough to be your biological mother," but my powers of speech had been startled into hiding. Thank God, the light turned green and I could cross the street before he said anything else. I might have ended up being traumatized for life. I mean... getting hit on by a TEN YEAR OLD? Is this some aspect of American culture that's sprung up over the past decade? Hitting on people twice your age? I suppose I might look younger than my real age, but I am pretty goddamn sure I do not look like I should be getting hit on by elementary school kids, for crying out loud. I'm all for dating younger men, but at the very least they have to be LEGAL. That's all I'm asking. It's not a lot. Has this happened to anyone else? I feel like I'd be less traumatized if reassured that I am not alone in this. 
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09-23-2006, 05:53 PM
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09-23-2006, 06:30 PM
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I'm the mother of an eight year old. He likes the word "sexy" and he likes the word "hot." He is - I'm sure - not really sure what these things REALLY mean (he thinks girls are gross), but he knows using them can get a rise out of grown ups.
So its possible that the ten year old in question was giving you a "complement" he didn't understand - one that causes a reaction in grown ups. Its also possible that he has already fathered children and was going to invite you out - that's been known to happen as well. You should know that the average 10 year old allowance doesn't make for much of a date - particularly after they buy cartridges for the gameboy.
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09-23-2006, 08:25 PM
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When I worked retail, I was bent over in a box of clothes, sorting and putting them on hangers and the like, when a six year old slapped my ass. I looked up and he winked at me and walked away. I was startled and a little creeped out until I realized he probably sees his dad do this to his mom or sees it on tv and doesn't understand he just sexually harrassed me.
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09-23-2006, 10:19 PM
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FWIW, my then-two-year-old nephew was in a pizza parlor with his grandfather (my father-in-law) a few years back during the wintertime, when a two-year-old girl came in with her grandfather. By my FIL's account, said nephew was transfixed by the sight of her, actually openly staring... Then when she started unzipping her parka-like down coat to sit down, he yelled out, "TAKE IT OFF!"
I have no idea where he picked this up. We all blamed my brother-in-law (his father), of course, as the obvious inculcator, who has one count of being Latino (Ecuadorean) against him, but he denied it, has never acted this way that we have seen, and he's not alone with the kid a whole lot... I guess it really doesn't help society improve itself that we still frequently tell this story as a complete joke
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09-24-2006, 07:06 AM
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Just to add to the scaryness. The Google ad is for Partnership Ceremonies.
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09-24-2006, 07:48 AM
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09-24-2006, 08:37 AM
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Hmm? I get a 404.
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#13
09-24-2006, 09:05 AM
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I suspect a teenager put him up to it.
Were there other young people around?
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09-24-2006, 09:46 AM
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... but... if we had met where the picture was taken, I might avoid hitting on you as being too young. (Much to my loss. Since I know you're not too young for me, How you doin?!?  )Otherwise, I might agree with Bosda that he was put up to it, or the couple of folks who think he might not have really known what he was saying.
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09-24-2006, 10:00 AM
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09-24-2006, 10:07 AM
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Hmm, that worked, thanks Ferret Herder.
Your height might have something to do with it? I think it's been mentioned on the boards that Asian women tend to look younger than they are compared to women of other races, perhap due to culturally reinforced mental image of what women at different ages are supposed to look like. It looks like the OP is in her early 30s, but In Chicago most people will probably think somewhat younger than that.
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#17
09-24-2006, 10:09 AM
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Well, at least the kid's got a good eye--he just needs to adjust his chronometer and he's good to go!
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09-24-2006, 11:07 AM
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FTR, I'm 24. But thanks for all the compliments, guys.
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09-24-2006, 11:10 AM
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I may actually prefer the hot gay jewelry.
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#22
09-24-2006, 11:23 AM
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Meh, if it makes you feel any better, I apparently look about 15 years older than I am. One of my co-workers, who had started at the same time I did, was recently perplexed when I told him I might need an extra $35/day to rent a car, being under 25. All the time I had been working there, everyone other than my boss (who had my resume) had thought I was about 35-40, not 23.
Fast living and loose women will do that to you, I suppose.
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#23
09-24-2006, 12:03 PM
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HazelNutCoffee, be assured you definitely do not have the look of the Middle-School demographic. Maybe the kid just has good taste, but a really, really BAD sense of timing (as in, it's off by a decade...) Or as mentioned before he just likes the reactions.
...or ...y'know ...maybe ...he has been watching all the news reports about Debra LaFave-type incidents and he's randomly trying to see if he can find one of those women! (...hmm... I'm always told I look considerably younger than I am, but so far no co-eds are throwing themselves at me. And besides, if a gal of the under-16 set tried that with a guy, he would absolutely KNOW it means she's wired and the NBC-News van is across the park with zoom lenses  )
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#26
09-24-2006, 01:55 PM
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It's a boy. Why would you be even remotely surprised? We learn earlier than you realize.
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09-24-2006, 02:13 PM
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09-24-2006, 02:18 PM
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09-24-2006, 02:46 PM
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I was gazing longingly at a pair of beautiful young Japanese women when my younger sister gave me a sharp elbow to the ribs and said disapprovingly, "They're thirteen!" Now, as a longtime fan of the Japanese female form, I knew this wasn't the case, and informed her, "No, Japanese women look like they're thirteen until they're twenty-seven." She just rolled her eyes, but I was vindicated a moment later when the young ladies in question walked past, carrying the beers they had just purchased from a vendor It was my turn to deliver an elbow jab and say, "See? See?"
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#30
09-24-2006, 02:56 PM
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I started hitting on women in their twenties and thirties when I was ten.
It took somewhere between two and three years to start paying off.
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09-24-2006, 03:35 PM
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09-24-2006, 05:04 PM
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Anyway, this incident makes for a good story. I can use it to fill awkward pauses in conversation. "So like, did I ever tell you about the time I was hit on by a 10 year old?" Again, thanks for all the compliments. My friend was telling me that I should take flattery where I can get it, but now I can tell him I don't need to resort to sketchy 10 year old kids for that. Hee.
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#33
09-24-2006, 05:12 PM
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*runs*
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#34
09-25-2006, 05:31 AM
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Many many years ago, when I was 19, I got a job soing secretarial work in a summer camp in the US.
During the last dance of the season, I was asked to dance by a 13yo who after two songs and some conversation told me it was a pity he wasn't going to be able to introduce me to his older brother (whom he evidently thought was the Coolest Guy Ever) because his brother was sure to like me. I still get a warm fuzzy feeling.
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09-25-2006, 08:53 AM
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Makes the time I was 17 and hit on by a 15 YO seem weak in comparison. And you are looking absolutely lovely in that pic, by the way.
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#37
09-25-2006, 09:35 AM
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I once knew a 10yo boy who hit on his mother's friend, who was maybe 28. She told him "We can go on a date when you turn 16." She figured that in six years, he'd forget all about it. He didn't. So she decided to keep her promise. They went out on a date. (No sex, unless you consider pizza and a PG-13 movie to be sex.) In the meantime, however, she'd gotten married. I don't think her husband was terribly cool with the idea, because he was pretty insecure to begin with. I don't think that was the reason for their divorce, though.
What's scary is that that kid must be in his early 30s by now.
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09-25-2006, 09:48 AM
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09-25-2006, 11:10 AM
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09-25-2006, 11:18 AM
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A generation ago, when a boy imitated his male elders and expressed appreciation of the female form and face -- regardless of how awkward, inept or just plain crude that expression might have been -- it was treated as a "boys will be boys" moment. We were not suspended, but we were "talked to" by someone in authority (usually the grizzled old assistant principal) who told us it was generally understood among good men that such comments were not made within hearing of female ears. It was the beginning of our transformation into men and, it was hoped, into gentlemen.
Nowadays, kids are suspended from school for it. That's a damn shame. Don't be so offended, HazelNut, the kid was just trying to act like a grown-up. A classless, crude and complete jerk of a grown-up, to be sure, but he's just a kid.
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09-25-2006, 12:37 PM
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09-25-2006, 01:41 PM
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Thought experiment: same situation, but reverse the gender of the 10-year-old and the OP -- that is, it's a 10-year-old girl and a 24-year-old male OP.
Why is it that we'd immediately suspect the child was an abuse victim, or something like that? Or would we?
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#44
09-25-2006, 02:11 PM
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My husband was about 28 when he got hit on by the 5-year-old daughter of a friend of his.
The first time he met her, she asked: "Do you have a car?" "Yes," he said. "Do you have a girlfriend?" "No." "Take me to Disney World."
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09-25-2006, 03:27 PM
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That is so my next pick-up line!!!
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09-25-2006, 03:46 PM
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09-25-2006, 03:50 PM
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I did a show for Students for a year at Second City. After every show, we would have a question-and-answer period. Invariably, if the students were between Grades 4-9, a boy or two would raise their hand and ask, "What's your phone number?" or "Are you single?"
I guess I can't complain, at least they raised their hand.
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09-25-2006, 04:20 PM
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09-25-2006, 04:29 PM
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Um, by the way, you're rather pretty.
So...um...(insert generic flirting response). Ah screw it. How you doin'? Oh yeah..the kid..I think he was just acting like either grownups around him had or how he thought grownups act. Kid's got a sack, that's for sure.
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09-25-2006, 04:45 PM
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" if you know what I mean.All these compliements are bewildering. I feel like an attention whore now. Not that I'm complaining.
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