Don't be proud of being a fucking bitch

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In this thread, RSSchen has started crowing about how happy she is now that she’s cheating on her husband. As my feeling on this subject (and my new opinion of RSSchen) are not welcome in IMHO, I figure I should post them here.

[QUOTE=tdn]
Yes, we’d all like to live in a world where happiness ever after and hot monkey sex and warm cozy feelings are abundant. But the reality is that love is a messy, sad, and bloody business. I can’t blame anyone for feeling a bit lost and disillusioned.
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So here’s to you RSSchen. You’re a miserable excuse for a human being and I hope your husband finds out and throws your lying ass out for making a fool of him. You fucking disgust me.

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This poster has been around for awhile. She believes herself to be “bright and quick”. And yet, she posts a confession like that and expects a non-judgemental audience?

Adulterous love must be a helluva drug!

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Let’s see… ::: pulls out DSM IV :::

Diagnostic criteria for 301.81 Narcissistic Personality Disorder

{Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, fourth Edition. Copyright 1994 American Psychiatric Association (APA Diagnostic Classification DSM-IV | BehaveNet if you want the whole shebang, knock yourselves out) }

Yeah, I’m there. I’m there…

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[QUOTE=monstro]
This poster has been around for awhile. She believes herself to be “bright and quick”. And yet, she posts a confession like that and expects a non-judgemental audience?

Adulterous love must be a helluva drug!
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What makes this so laughable is that her husband is supposed to be the “dim” witted one.

What does that make him?

A brick wall?

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I remember something similar happening years ago. A female doper posted a thread in MPSIMS IIRC, talking about being in love, she was married, the guy was married and his wife was pregnant. It was amazing - she only responded to the posts that told her to follow her heart, the concept that her actions might be considered morally bankrupt, her lover morally reprehensible, that two.five other people were being harmed by her actions all was filtered through the la la la I can’t hear you filter.

One of the reasons I don’t post to that forum much. edited to clarify that last thought - not that I think most of the folks posting there are enablers or anything,

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[QUOTE=DSM IV]
A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:

(1) has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)

(2) is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love

(3) believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)

(4) requires excessive admiration

(5) has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations

(6) is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends

(7) lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others

(8) is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her

(9) shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
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Sounds to me like the definition of Homo sapiens. And a few other creatures as well.

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[QUOTE=guizot]
Sounds to me like the definition of Homo sapiens. And a few other creatures as well.
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Eh, not entirely. Not when it runs that deep, trust me. At this level, it’s pathological and it’s a serious problem.

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[QUOTE=Elenfair]
Eh, not entirely. Not when it runs that deep, trust me. At this level, it’s pathological and it’s a serious problem.
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Oh please, she’s on an endorphin high and being stupid right now. It’s not Narcissistic Personality Disorder, it’s called “Being in Love”.

I’m not defending her, mind. What she’s doing is despicable. But so is diagnosing someone with a major mental illness, over the internet, without a medical license (?), when you have no clinical experience with her. Nothing that’s she done or said here is a qualifying marker for a diagnosis. It’s all entirely “normal” and common in the beginning stages of an affair - adulterous or otherwise.

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well, and that thread appears to be going the same way I recall all of those others going years ago - OP ignoring anything but those who support her preferred course.

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There was a time around five years ago when a married male Doper with kids began an affair with an unmarried female Doper. The wife found out partially because of all of the flirty posts back and forth on here. His wife was “clueless” too.

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[QUOTE=hajario]
There was a time around five years ago when a married male Doper with kids began an affair with an unmarried female Doper. The wife found out partially because of all of the flirty posts back and forth on here. His wife was “clueless” too.
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Was that the whole “stinkypaws” thing?

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Word up to Justin. Couldn’t have said it better myself. What a selfish skank.

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I’ve occasionally found that some people pretend to be ‘bad’ at something, either to get out of it doing X or just to give that impression to cover up something. For example, my dad feigns inability to clean the house, hence he’s never called on to pitch in. Another, since this pertains to the thread in question, are several who put forth a ‘technologically challenged’ persona but in reality are proficient enough to (like I said) install a keystroke recorder. You just never know what could end up biting you in the ass when you’re trying to be duplicitous.

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Yeah a message board and a myspace page aren’t that hard to find in your computer’s history. He could easily get the know-how just by trial and error and random exploration. I hope he does.

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I’ve said my polite peace in the other thread. I find you people willing to judge this person and call her names and go for the jugular quite scary, yet quite normal for the Dope.

A few threads down is the thread entitled, Intolerance on this board. :smack:

BTW, I’m not automatically validating the OP. I am criticizing the blood in the water, attack! mentality here.

Engage the OP. Ask questions. Think. Then critique, understanding that your own perspective on the matter isn’t Jesus-given, no-brainer truth.

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Oh, and in the interest of full (or as much as it can be) disclosure before anyone thinks I’m being hypocritical in my observations, I’ve posted my fucked-upedness in this area. I didn’t want to put this in the other thread because it seemed like a hijack of the attempt to comment on RSSchen’s situation. But it only feels right to notate this myself than for anyone to have to waste any time if it was wished to be looked up (or even relevant, but I’m assuming you guys know what I mean, despite the idiotic sentence structure) or remembered reading this, but didn’t know who it was and this way, I can save whoever of wondering.

That’s all. Or a freakin’ lot if you read the linked post. So you’ve been warned.

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[QUOTE=Guinastasia]
Was that the whole “stinkypaws” thing?
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Yes.

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[QUOTE=Larry Borgia]
Yeah a message board and a myspace page aren’t that hard to find in your computer’s history. He could easily get the know-how just by trial and error and random exploration. I hope he does.
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Heck, I’ve discovered a few things I didn’t need to know about my husband’s taste in porn simply by reading the recent history as the browser tries to guess what I’m typing.

“Let’s see, I wonder if Big Lots has a website? w…w…w…dot…b…i…g… - OH!, I did NOT need to see that!” :smiley:

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[QUOTE=Aeschines]
I’ve said my polite peace in the other thread. I find you people willing to judge this person and call her names and go for the jugular quite scary, yet quite normal for the Dope.

A few threads down is the thread entitled, Intolerance on this board. :smack:

BTW, I’m not automatically validating the OP. I am criticizing the blood in the water, attack! mentality here.

Engage the OP. Ask questions. Think. Then critique, understanding that your own perspective on the matter isn’t Jesus-given, no-brainer truth.
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Not everyone has “attacked” her. Many are engaging her, trying to understand by asking questions, etc. Why when someone summarizes a situation must they make it all or nothing?

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[QUOTE=Elenfair]
Eh, not entirely. Not when it runs that deep, trust me. At this level, it’s pathological and it’s a serious problem.
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Of course I was being facetious, though clearly it’s a serious problem.

Lots of people marry the “wrong” person–or a a person who for one reason or another turns out to be wrong. People are complicated. The guy she’s having an affair with could end up just as boring to her. In any case, if she’s been married for 15 years, the children are probably old enough to be able to deal with a divorce.