I feel badly for the homeless, even when the ones that brought it on themselves. (to an extent)
When I grew up there was a guy named Herbie in my neighborhood. he was older than I was, in his mid 20’s when I was still in Junior High.
Around the time I was in college I was home visiting and I asked a friend about people in the neighborhood I had not seen in some time. When Herbie’s name came up I found out he had been living on the street in Wilmington (DE) for some time. (apparently due to a crack addiction, or so I was told), A year or so later I found out he had been found in alley, dead. Frozen to death.
I have a cousin thats about ten years older than I. He’s on disability, and doesn’t work. He could probably find some kind of part time gig just to pass the time but he claims they’ll take away his disability if he does. Its a shame. When I was kid he was married and his wife was smokin’ hot. He has 2 sons (that don’t really communicate with him). He was a former marine, and he had a gorgeous harley he used to ride around. (Hell, he was also…get this…a black belt in Karate. He used to teach it to kids at the local community center) We used (us kids) think he was so cool. We called him “The Black Fonz”.
But then he had an accident. He was almost killed in a car accident. Someone ran him over when he was changing a tire. then the moron backed up over him! Hence the disability. He was in bad shape. He never recovered. After years of watching him sink into depression and drugs his smokin’ hot wife left him. He began moving from place to place staying with friends. In the late eighties he was staying with a known drug addict in the old neighborhood and i was living and struggling with bills in my parents house. (everyone had died in my immediate family, including my sister.) i told him he could come stay with me if he’d pay 1 third of the mortgage as rent. I won’t go into some of the horror stories about it, it would make this a very long post. Suffice it to say that when I decided to go on active duty I told him he had to move out before I left. (In another horror story I left the house to be rented and watched out by my BIL. He did so many things wrong I had to go to the JAG office to unload the burden.) Anyway my cousin (we caled him Clucky for some reason) moved out to stay with some friend of his. I came home on leave a few years later and he had a section 8 apartment that honestly was not bad. His rent was only about 100 bucks. It was located near the old neighborhood so all of hiss friends were near. I stayed with him while I was home, and then left. I came back a few years later to find he had moved…now get this…into a shed behind someone’s house. Not a big shed either. It was just large enough to fit a cot in it along with the gardening stff and lawn mower etc. The person letting him stay there ran an extenstion cord from their window to the shed so he could plug in a small TV and a space heater. It seems he just didn’t pay the rent on his apartment so they kicked him out.
Of course the shed thing didn’t last too long either. None of my relatives would have him. He certainly couldn’t live with my wife and I (we were in Germany anyway). So he was homeless. He’d stay at a friends house for a night, sleep in a car or an alley a few days and so on. Finally my aunt (not a real aunt but a close family friend we all called Aunt M) got him into church. He cleaned up his act a bit and she let him stay in her house for a time. Currently he’s staying with his brother. I sure hope he doesn’t fall back into the drugs and stuff, because his brother has children and would surely put him on the street.
The thing is Clucky isn’t a bad guy. He drove me nuts when he lived with me, but you know, he’s family, I do love him. And we had a few good times living together. Sometimes he’d almost revert back to his old pre-accident self. Yes, he could have avoided some of the crap he got into, but in some ways I think I didn’t do enough to help him. I was younger than he was, I didn’t have any money or much of anything…but I should have tried to look out for him better. My uncle that died in 2001, did that for me when my folks died. So there by the grace of God I didn’t become Clucky.