Have you ever been involved in a threesome?

[Avarie537]

Inspired by a post in MPSIMS, I thought this would be a fun poll. It's private, although you can expound in a reply if you wish.

[Chessic Sense]

My record is a 5-some. I was, unfortunately, the odd guy out. But perhaps double-sloppy-seconds is better than single firsts? I dunno.

For my birthday, my girlfriend and her college roommate put on school girl outfits. That was fun.

At least twice, we've done it with another couple. They were drunk, we were drunk. It was fun.

I'd recommend any of the above.

[Serenata67]

I was ... experimental ... in college. This is just the tip of the iceberg.

[UncleNito]

Originally Posted by Serenata67

I was ... experimental ... in college. This is just the tip of the iceberg.

Icebergs don't count.

Someone had to say it.

[NinetyWt]

Our threesome was 2 girls, one guy; all under the age of 21. Bonus: the guy was a virgin.

[Harry1945]

Yes. Two girls and me.

[Covered_In_Bees!]

Great, I'm the big loser prude of the responders so far.

No I haven't been in a threesome but yes I'd be interested if the circumstances were exactly correct. I can be somewhat clingy and jealous, so if I'm seriously involved with a girl I'd probably not go for it. If I'm just casually dating someone and the subject got brought up with a positive reaction, I'd go for it.

EDIT: Any female takers in the NM region?

[panache45]

I've had group sex in many locations, some of which were too dark to count the number of people.

[Avarie537]

Originally Posted by NinetyWt

Our threesome was 2 girls, one guy; all under the age of 21. Bonus: the guy was a virgin.

You know you ruined him, right?

S'ok ... a guy friend of mine was de-flowered by girl who called herself Sapphire. They met in a bar, went back to his place, banged three times in twelve hours, and never saw each other again. For his repressed upbringing, it was exactly what he needed.

[Anaamika]

Ooops. I voted wrong! Somehow I thought the thread was "What would you like to participate in", not "What have you participated in?" I have never been in a threesome.

[Jophiel]

Originally Posted by Covered_In_Bees!

No I haven't been in a threesome but yes I'd be interested if the circumstances were exactly correct. I can be somewhat clingy and jealous, so if I'm seriously involved with a girl I'd probably not go for it.

I'm married so it's out of the question (for us; if you married folk wanna go for it, have fun). But this was pretty much my answer from my single days. The ONLY way it would have worked would have been for me to stumble across a couple of anonymous willing females in another state, or better another country, the day before I was to return home. Otherwise, I would have mentally poisoned it somehow by getting upset that some object of my affections was messing around with another girl, no matter how hot it was at the time.

It's good to know your limits.

[Khadaji]

It is not really one of my big fantasies. If I were with a woman who really wanted to bring another woman into our bed, I would explore that with her - but unlike many men I don't care if I ever experience it.

I am not at all interested in bringing another man into my bed and would not allow it.

[Really Not All That Bright]

Been there, done that, not discussing whether or not it was sexual El Dorado because I don't want to disappoint the other guys who haven't tried it.

[corkboard]

Yes, two guys and a girl. She was hitting on me in a huge way while we were all out in a big group one night. The guy was visiting for the weekend and was staying at my place. I was only somewhat interested in her, but told her that if I agreed to go back to her place, the guy had to come too. She agreed not only to let him sleep at her place, but that he should participate. We stopped at a deli and bought a 12-pack of Trojans, and used them all.

As I'm now married, I won't be able to finagle a two-girls-and-me threesome, or any other combination, for that matter.

[Bearflag70]

Originally Posted by corkboard

Yes, two guys and a girl... We stopped at a deli and bought a 12-pack of Trojans, and used them all.

I don't know how anyone could feel anything while wearing 6 condoms.

[MeanOldLady]

I actually like sex a lot. I've experimented enough, and when it comes down to it, what I really enjoy the most isn't the magic tricks or the acrobatics or the fancy only-practical-in-porn positions. It's me wanting him, and him wanting me very badly, and having at it. That is the ticket. None of that other Spice Channel bullshit.

[Beltane]

I voted for 3 guys... but I've actually been in a 2 guys and a girl situation as well. Never done a fourgy or more, however.

[Khadaji]

Many years ago, after attending a college graduation party, one woman told me and another guy that her fantasy was to be raped by two men while wearing a graduation cap. (Yes, she said raped.) I declined.

[Diogenes the Cynic]

If you are a guy, then you really shouldn't count 2 guys and a girl as a three-way. That's kind of a Michael Scott thing to do.

Personally, I can't see how having another dude in the room would be appealing at all.

Two girls makes a nice fantasy, but I'd rather leave it that way. Monogamy is really where it's at.

[Malthus]

Originally Posted by Diogenes the Cynic

If you are a guy, then you really shouldn't count 2 guys and a girl as a three-way. That's kind of a Michael Scott thing to do.

Personally, I can't see how having another dude in the room would be appealing at all.

Two girls makes a nice fantasy, but I'd rather leave it that way. Monogamy is really where it's at.

I don't agree: doing two guys and one girl wasn't my fantasy, but it was hers. Helping someone else fulfil her long-held fantasy is a turn on all in itself, even if you don't happen to share it that much.

I've done the two guys one girl thing; it was a couple I was friends with, who basically asked me if I was willing to do it, no strings attached, because she was into it. I was willing, and it was fun if slighly awkward.

I would have liked to do two girls and me. I came close as a young'un, and made out with two girls at the same time ... but we were too young to go all the way and actually get nekkid.

Now I'm married and monogamous, and would not have it any other way.

[Tapioca Dextrin]

I picked up a girl at a party many years ago and a mutual female friend asked if she could watch.

I declined

[Beltane]

Originally Posted by Diogenes the Cynic

If you are a guy, then you really shouldn't count 2 guys and a girl as a three-way. That's kind of a Michael Scott thing to do.

Personally, I can't see how having another dude in the room would be appealing at all.

Two girls makes a nice fantasy, but I'd rather leave it that way. Monogamy is really where it's at.

Actually some of us guys prefer 3 guys, but have done two guys and one lady. It would be interesting to see how sexual preference correlates., to the types of threesomes

[corkboard]

Originally Posted by Diogenes the Cynic

If you are a guy, then you really shouldn't count 2 guys and a girl as a three-way. That's kind of a Michael Scott thing to do.

Personally, I can't see how having another dude in the room would be appealing at all.

Two girls makes a nice fantasy, but I'd rather leave it that way. Monogamy is really where it's at.

Having the other guy there wasn't the appealing thing, it was just sort of an "isn't this wild!?!?" thing. Afterward, my friend and I agreed that it was a little weird watching her service the other one, but the fact that I was a single guy & getting some good sex from an enthusiastic, willing, horny, sexy partner was the best part about it. Watching her blowing him while I was fucking her wasn't necessarily a turn-on, but it wasn't a turn-off, either.

[Really Not All That Bright]

I think Dio's point is that it doesn't count as a threesome if you're a guy in a MMF threesome and you're not attracted to guys, since your only concern is the girl and which hole you're moving onto next.

Girls generally (though presumably not always) play with each other during FFM threesomes as well as the guy, so for them it's an actual threesome, as it were.

[Diogenes the Cynic]

Originally Posted by Beltane

Actually some of us guys prefer 3 guys, but have done two guys and one lady. It would be interesting to see how sexual preference correlates., to the types of threesomes

I should have been clear that I was only talking about straight guys. Obviously, if guys are your preference, then it's the girl that's in the way.

[Diogenes the Cynic]

Originally Posted by Really Not All That Bright

I think Dio's point is that it doesn't count as a threesome if you're a guy in a MMF threesome and you're not attracted to guys, since your only concern is the girl and which hole you're moving onto next.

Girls generally (though presumably not always) play with each other during FFM threesomes as well as the guy, so for them it's an actual threesome, as it were.

Even if the girls don't touch each other, you still get the visual and sensory stimulation of two girls.

But yeah, if you're straight, the difference between MFF and MMF is the difference between getting two milkshakes and having to share a milkshake.

Plus, for me personally, it was just be gross.

[Belrix]

Sure it's a fantasy but I think it would bring problems down the road, adding another woman to my wife's and my playtime.

Maybe I'd consider it if I could be sure that I'd never see the third party again - just a Kleenex girl to be used once and thrown away.

I don't want the complications that knowing the person would bring.

[Really Not All That Bright]

Originally Posted by Diogenes the Cynic

Plus, for me personally, it was just be gross.

*deletes private message*

[gaffa]

Originally Posted by Really Not All That Bright

I think Dio's point is that it doesn't count as a threesome if you're a guy in a MMF threesome and you're not attracted to guys, since your only concern is the girl and which hole you're moving onto next.

I don't get why, or why my experience - me and a friend with his girlfriend - isn't in the poll. It was her idea, and having been in that situation that MMF makes much more sense and works far better for the woman. Any woman can outlast any single man, no matter how big his ego, so having a second penis available is very helpful.

I suspect this "MMF is not a threesome" meme comes from the Playboy Advisor column, who I recall ruling that "two men, one woman is a gang bang" - which seems pretty judgmental to me. A woman who has participated in a threesome is seen as sexually adventurous. But one who has been in a "gang bang" is seen as a slut.

In my case, there was limited sexual contact between my friend and myself - while she was sitting on my face, he sucked my dick, thus moving me from a 0 to a 1 on the Kinsey Scale. I wonder if I'd be a 2 if I had come?

[Jophiel]

Originally Posted by diogenes the cynic

but yeah, if you're straight, the difference between mff and mmf is the difference between getting two milkshakes and having to share a milkshake.

drainage!!

[Procrustus]

my S.O. and I have done it a few times. (with other women)

I enjoyed it quite a bit, and she says she did too. I was afraid I might like it too much, and not be satisfied with "normal sex" after that. Turns out, our every-day sex life is still great, and we don't crave another threesome, but are open to it any time if we get a chance.

[Really Not All That Bright]

Originally Posted by gaffa

I suspect this "MMF is not a threesome" meme comes from the Playboy Advisor column, who I recall ruling that "two men, one woman is a gang bang" - which seems pretty judgmental to me. A woman who has participated in a threesome is seen as sexually adventurous. But one who has been in a "gang bang" is seen as a slut.

In my case, there was limited sexual contact between my friend and myself - while she was sitting on my face, he sucked my dick, thus moving me from a 0 to a 1 on the Kinsey Scale. I wonder if I'd be a 2 if I had come?

I think you misunderstood: while an MMF session would not be a threesome for me (since I would have no interest in or sexual contact with the other male), it would be for the girl, since she would have interest and sexual contact with both males.

Similarly, if two bi or pansexual or whatever guys and a girl are involved in an MMF encounter, that's a threesome for all parties, since each participant is into both other partipants.

In an FFM scenario, if the girls are into each other as well as the guy, it's a threesome for all concerned; if, however, the two girls have no interest in each other and are just sharing, that's not really a threesome for them, it's just having sex with half a man at a time.

To drag it out a little further, let's say you have a scenario involving three people of one gender, but two are interested only in the "middle" participant, only the middle person has really had a threesome.

As far as the "gang bang" vs. "threesome" thing goes, yes, it's unfair, but I think that comes down to the fact that women will rarely (if ever) participate in a threesome unless they're going to enjoy the other girl and the guy.

[Diogenes the Cynic]

Originally Posted by gaffa

I don't get why, or why my experience - me and a friend with his girlfriend - isn't in the poll. It was her idea, and having been in that situation that MMF makes much more sense and works far better for the woman. Any woman can outlast any single man, no matter how big his ego, so having a second penis available is very helpful.

I suspect this "MMF is not a threesome" meme comes from the Playboy Advisor column, who I recall ruling that "two men, one woman is a gang bang" - which seems pretty judgmental to me. A woman who has participated in a threesome is seen as sexually adventurous. But one who has been in a "gang bang" is seen as a slut.

In my case, there was limited sexual contact between my friend and myself - while she was sitting on my face, he sucked my dick, thus moving me from a 0 to a 1 on the Kinsey Scale. I wonder if I'd be a 2 if I had come?

This was a bisexual three-way, not just two straight guys banging one chick.

If you are not interested in guys (as you obviously are), then an extra guy is just an obstacle, not an enhancement.

[Who_me?]

Originally Posted by Diogenes the Cynic

This was a bisexual three-way, not just two straight guys banging one chick.

If you are not interested in guys (as you obviously are), then an extra guy is just an obstacle, not an enhancement.

Your definitions don't interest me. A MMF threesome is just as much a threesome as a FFM. Not all FFM threesomes have play between the females, just as not all MMF have play between the guys.

[gaffa]

Originally Posted by Diogenes the Cynic

This was a bisexual three-way, not just two straight guys banging one chick.

No, this was two straight guys having sex with the same woman. And, while one guy had a pretty large woman sitting on his face, the other guy experimented. Sexuality is not defined by bright lines. If two men are double-penetrating the same woman, does it suddenly become a "bisexual three-way" if their balls touch?

If you are not interested in guys (as you obviously are), then an extra guy is just an obstacle, not an enhancement.

Huh? This was his girlfriend. I was the "extra guy". She wanted to experience two men at once, I was available, we had fun.

Other than that one incident, I've never had sex with a man - I'd rank it just slightly above a Boy Scout camp circle-jerk on the gay scale. It is entirely possible for two totally heterosexual men to have sex with one woman and avoid any contact at all (even contact that would be acceptable while wearing a football uniform). In the same way, two heterosexual women having sex with the same guy would count that as a threesome even if they refrained from any contact.

[corkboard]

Originally Posted by Diogenes the Cynic

But yeah, if you're straight, the difference between MFF and MMF is the difference between getting two milkshakes and having to share a milkshake.

I drink your milkshake!

I understand the distinction you're making, but I don't understand why from the girl's POV, she's in a threesome (with two guys), but from the perspective of one of the guys, he's not in a threesome. Same group of people; a threesome for one but not for the others? It's semantics.

So what would one of the guys call it? "I was having sex with a girl and there was another guy there, who she was also having sex with, in a somewhat alternating fashion."

[Diogenes the Cynic]

Originally Posted by Who_me?

Your definitions don't interest me. A MMF threesome is just as much a threesome as a FFM. Not all FFM threesomes have play between the females, just as not all MMF have play between the guys.

This is incorrect. If you are only having sex with one person, then you are not having a threesome. That's the difference between a gang bang and a three-way. it's only a three way if all three people are mutually involved.

[Diogenes the Cynic]

Originally Posted by corkboard

I drink your milkshake!

I understand the distinction you're making, but I don't understand why from the girl's POV, she's in a threesome (with two guys), but from the perspective of one of the guys, he's not in a threesome. Same group of people; a threesome for one but not for the others? It's semantics.

In my opinion, you count the number of people that you personally have sex with.

So what would one of the guys call it? "I was having sex with a girl and there was another guy there, who she was also having sex with, in a somewhat alternating fashion."

It's called a gang bang.

[Really Not All That Bright]

I call it a spit roast. 2 guys does not a gang bang make.

I mean, if there are only 2 people in your gang, you better live in a pretty safe 'hood.

[Who_me?]

Originally Posted by Diogenes the Cynic

This is incorrect. If you are only having sex with one person, then you are not having a threesome. That's the difference between a gang bang and a three-way. it's only a three way if all three people are mutually involved.

This is incorrect. See? I can cite my opinions too.

[Diogenes the Cynic]

Originally Posted by gaffa

No, this was two straight guys having sex with the same woman. And, while one guy had a pretty large woman sitting on his face, the other guy experimented.

Yiou had sex with th guy. I don't care if you call it an experiment or not. Oral sex is sex. The fact that you had sex with the guy makes it sex.

Sexuality is not defined by bright lines. If two men are double-penetrating the same woman, does it suddenly become a "bisexual three-way" if their balls touch?

Kind of. I wouldn't be willing to risk it (and I would never be willing to have another guy in the room in the first place). I do know that FOR SURE a guy sucking another guy's dick is straight up homosexual sex.

Huh? This was his girlfriend. I was the "extra guy". She wanted to experience two men at once, I was available, we had fun.

Yes, but you guys also had sex with each other, so you weren't in the way (and your buddy wasn't straight. I'm sorry to break it to you. Straight guys don't "experiment" with sucking dick).

[bup]

Diogenes, at this point all you're doing is making a fun thread not fun.

[gaffa]

Originally Posted by Really Not All That Bright

I call it a spit roast. 2 guys does not a gang bang make.

"Spit roast" is every bit as misogynistic as "gang bang", in my opinion, reducing the woman involved to the same status as the pig at a luau. "Threesome" is far less judgmental - it accurately describes the situation of three people having sex. All these other distinctions really do seem like panic about "catching teh ghey!!!1!!" "Me and my buddy had sex with this slut BUT WE'RE NOT GAY!"

[gaffa]

Originally Posted by Diogenes the Cynic

Yiou had sex with th guy. I don't care if you call it an experiment or not. Oral sex is sex. The fact that you had sex with the guy makes it sex.

Lissener had a great line about sexual identity - that it is defined by who you fall in love with rather than who you have sex with. Ships and prisons are filled with heterosexual men having sex with each other. I don't deny I had sex with a man. Which is why I identified as a "1" on the Kinsey scale. Which describes a huge percentage of the population.

Yes, but you guys also had sex with each other, so you weren't in the way (and your buddy wasn't straight. I'm sorry to break it to you. Straight guys don't "experiment" with sucking dick).

Damn, I really am surprised at seeing these kind of things coming from liberal you. If I had sucked his dick, I'd identify as bisexual and have no problem with it.

[Really Not All That Bright]

Originally Posted by gaffa

Damn, I really am surprised at seeing these kind of things coming from liberal you.

Methinks Dio doth protest too much.

[Diogenes the Cynic]

What am I protesting?

[furt]

Originally Posted by bup

Diogenes, at this point all you're doing is making a fun thread not fun.

You're surprised?

[Diogenes the Cynic]

Originally Posted by gaffa

Lissener had a great line about sexual identity - that it is defined by who you fall in love with rather than who you have sex with. Ships and prisons are filled with heterosexual men having sex with each other. I don't deny I had sex with a man. Which is why I identified as a "1" on the Kinsey scale. Which describes a huge percentage of the population.

That's fine if you're talking about orientation, which I was not. I was talking only about specific sexual activicty. Oral sex is specific, sexual activity. Male on male oral sex is specifically homosexual activity, regardless of natural orientation.

Damn, I really am surprised at seeing these kind of things coming from liberal you. If I had sucked his dick, I'd identify as bisexual and have no problem with it.

What am I saying that isn't liberal? A guy who wants to suck a dick is, by definition, not 100% straight. Orientation is defined by attraction. Being attracted to a cock is the definition of homosexuality.

Lissener is wrong, by the way. Lots of people have lots of sex without falling in love. That doesn't mean they don't have sexual orientations.

[Who_me?]

Originally Posted by Diogenes the Cynic

Lissener is wrong, by the way. Lots of people have lots of sex without falling in love. That doesn't mean they don't have sexual orientations.

I notice you claiming he's wrong and I see nothing but your opinion backing you up.

[MeanOldLady]

I think we were talking about threesomes, and then it got into a purse fight about the distinction between a threesomes and a gang bang. Please replace "threesome" with "sexual activity that involved more than two people."