Do you usually go to bed alone?

[MovieMogul]

Well...?

[norinew]

We moved from Maryland to West Virginia a few months ago; hubby still works in Maryland. It's about a four-hour drive from where he works to our apartment. Because of drive-time and cost of gas, he only comes home for long weekends (Friday-Monday) every other week.

He is in the process of trying to transfer his job to the VA hospital that is commutable from here, but we understand they give preference to veterans, so it could take a while.

Meantime, we talk on the phone/email every day, but most nights, I go to bed alone.

Sometimes my kitty comes in to my bed, but sometimes I kick him out again because he likes to lick my toes when/if I kick off my covers. I'm very ticklish, and it's impossible to sleep with him licking my toes!

[teela brown]

You don't have an option for "Yes, because the hubby stays up to watch hockey and I'm usually in bed and asleep by the end of the shootout."

[Ogre]

I have a spouse AND pets that are with me every night. This should be a multi-choice poll.

[ivylass]

Due to Ivylad's health issues, it's rare we're in bed at the same time and throughout the night. He'll wake up, unable to get back to sleep and get up, come to bed after me, or already be in bed when I'm ready to sleep.

[ZipperJJ]

Since my boy only sleeps over every so often (he's got a weird work schedule), and my dog sleeps with me (at least when it's cold)...I manned up and admitted that I sleep with my dog most nights

[silenus]

Well, my wife travels, so she isn't in bed with me every night. The cats are there, but she isn't.

There is also the reverse of teela's post, which would be "My wife works from home, but works best at night, so she tends to come to bed much later."

[Yeticus Rex]

99+% with the wife over 23 years, although earlier this month she was in D.C. at a conference while I was home with the kids......forgot what it felt like....sleeping alone.

[Springtime for Spacers]

None of the above. I have a cat who sometimes sleeps on the bed with me and a partner who has his own place so we sleep together sometimes. The cat doens't like sharing the bed with both of us.

[norinew]

Originally Posted by Springtime for Spacers

The cat doens't like sharing the bed with both of us.

Heh. My cat has no compunctions about sharing the bed with both of us. But my hubby doesn't like sharing the bed with the cat! So, frequently, the cat will get in the bed at some point during the night while hubby is home, but as soon as he (the cat, not the husband) starts being a PITA, hubby kicks the cat out of the room and shuts the door tight!

[corkboard]

I don't, but my wife does. She usually goes up to bed at least an hour before me, but when I go up, there's a nice warm body to snuggle up to.

[Skammer]

My wife is almost always in bed before me, but usually still awake when I get there.

[Oredigger77]

I seem to spend more time unattached then in a relationship so I usually sleep alone and I only let my dog into bed when it's cold.

[YourAdHere]

always, i've never really known anything else and I don't have any pets. On occasion I have gone to bed with people if I'm in some sort of relationship, but even then it is by far the exception rather than the norm. It doesn't really bother me as I don't know anything else. It's hard to imagine having someone constantly around, especially at night. Sometimes I go to bed absurdly early, some nights I don't sleep at all.

[delphica]

The cat and I go to bed together, the husband usually gets in a few more hours of playing WoW.

[KneadToKnow]

My girlfriend usually sleeps over Friday, Saturday, and Sunday nights. The rest of the week, I fly solo.

[MsWhatsit]

Not since college. MrWhatsit has been putting up with my blanket-stealage for going on ten years now.

[FairyChatMom]

We don't always go to bed at the same time, but unless one of us is on travel, we're sleeping together at least part of every night.

[Antinor01]

Originally Posted by Ogre

I have a spouse AND pets that are with me every night. This should be a multi-choice poll.

Same here.

[Savannah]

Other. Spouse and pet. We're a little family.

[Queen Tonya]

I work days and he works nights, so I've usually just gone to bed when he's driving home. He generally comes up for a goodnight kiss and possible conversation or shenanigans if I'm still awake, though.

[TimeWinder]

Other: Another work schedules don't overlap; we each sleep when the other is at work.

[kapri]

I need to change my vote--I said yes and it's perfectly fine with me, but then saw the dog/cat thing; I wasn't thinking of pets when I voted.

Also, it's perfectly fine with me most of the time, but of course sometimes I wish there was another warm body in bed with me. A human one, I mean. Male.

[Cyn]

Since I moved in 7 months ago, I get into bed alone but he arrives in a fairly timely fashion. I drift to sleep to the sounds of him grooming himself.

[psycat90]

My husband and I have separate bedrooms. Been about 3 years now I think and we both love it. We usually sleep in the same bed 3 nights a week or so. We generally go to sleep around the same time, although I'm usually in my bed a little earlier and out of bed earlier as well. We kiss each other goodnight every night and good morning, etc. and make late night visits to one another, we cuddle for a bit before sleeping, sometimes we'll read in bed together, all that jazz.

We are both just much more comfortable sleeping alone. I move around a lot, he's very still. I'm always cold, he's always hot, etc.
It's nice not having to worry about keeping each other up or waking each other up or anything like that. And it's nice when we do sleep in the same bed too.

[The Real Regency Elf]

norinew, we are in almost the same boat, only my husband is usually (but not always) home every weekend. We're going to be in this situation until we sell our house, and as we can't lower our asking price until our contract with the RE agent runs out in Feb., we're going to be stuck in this situation until then, at least.

After years of sleeping alone with few qualms, I now hate it with a passion. Our neighborhood has had a number of break-ins in the past two months and I feel like a sitting duck. Our cat comes and goes during the night, usually in silence but sometimes I'll sense that she's bumped the bedroom door open and I just have to turn on the lamp to be sure it's only her.

[ScareyFaerie]

Originally Posted by delphica

The cat and I go to bed together, the husband usually gets in a few more hours of playing WoW.

This! In my case it usually means the partner gets an extra six hours of WoSW...

[Gala Matrix Fire]

I love sleeping alone. But I'd let the cats in the bedroom if they weren't so prone to vomiting.

[Peg Leg]

Haven't slept with my bf in about 2 months cause I've been on a project assignment. I miss sleepytime snuggles.

When I'm home though, he always comes and lays in bed with me until I fall asleep, and then gets back up to do whatever night owls do.

[Walpurgis]

Originally Posted by ScareyFaerie

This! In my case it usually means the partner gets an extra six hours of WoSW...

...and over here it's Dragon Age.

(I get my playing done in the morning instead)

[Markxxx]

I go to bed alone, because evidently that is the way everyone else wants it.

I often wonder if I'd be able to adapt to living with anyone. I have been on my own since I was 16 and now I'm 45 and three times I've had roommates, and that is about a year in total for all three.

I've never dated anyone long time or had a relationship so I never had the excuse to "stay over."

I reckon it'd be hard to get used to sleeping with someone after a lifetime of not doing it

[norinew]

Originally Posted by Markxxx

I go to bed alone, because evidently that is the way everyone else wants it.

I often wonder if I'd be able to adapt to living with anyone. I have been on my own since I was 16 and now I'm 45 and three times I've had roommates, and that is about a year in total for all three.

I've never dated anyone long time or had a relationship so I never had the excuse to "stay over."

I reckon it'd be hard to get used to sleeping with someone after a lifetime of not doing it

No cites, but this is IMHO, so I won't bother searching one out.
But I've been told that the only group with a higher divorce rate than those that get married under the age of 25 are those who have their first marriage after age 40. And I bet you can guess why that might be true: you get used to doing things your way, it gets harder to compromise, it's tough on a relationship.

[Serenata67]

I can't seem to sleep without my lovie next to me. *sigh* I love him.

[AHunter3]

Other, specify:

No, I have a spouse/partner/SO that's with me MOST nights. Sometimes she is elsewhere, sometimes I am.

[Caprese]

Originally Posted by teela brown

You don't have an option for "Yes, because the hubby stays up to watch hockey and I'm usually in bed and asleep by the end of the shootout."

This is my situation as well. I don't even like TV that much, and am more of a early to bed early to rise type.

The spouse likes to stay up/doze with ESPN, then eventually come to bed a couple hours after me.

And yeah, we've got pets in there with us, too.