I’ve decided to stop all pretense of trying to have a serious relationship with women. Nope, this is the new liberated me! Just call monogamy the experiment that went bad. From now on, I’m going to shag whomever I want, whenever I want, and if the woman doesn’t like it, well tough shit. She’s just going to have to accept that I’m going to have sex with whomever I want, whenever I want. If she’s lucky, sometimes that someone will be her! Why should she be upset? After all, I’m only more than happy to let her be with whomever she wants – that way I don’t have to feel bad when I sleep around. She can’t be upset just because I’ve figured out that my partners can’t get mad at me for cheating on them if I tell them right *from the start * that I’m going to be banging all and sundry - what a brilliant move this is!
Let’s face it, there’s no way that anyone could possibly find themselves fulfilled in a relationship with just one person. It’s just not natural. Besides, I get bored easily. Better to have multiple partners, the more the better! I’m sure there are lots of women that won’t mind raising a child when the dad has several other ladies on the go, right?
I mean, I don’t see why we need to settle down and have mature relationships. Why can’t we just keep on acting like we’re in high school or uni, even when we’re in our 40s and 50s? Life is too short to be worried about things like commitment and stuff like that. I suppose one of the women might decide they want to settle down with me - but tough luck, ladies! I’m not going to be tied down, and remember, I told you what the score was before we started playing!
Oh, and even better, I can justify all this because I can call it by a fancy-dancy name! If I didn’t have the fancy-dancy name, why, I’d just be an immature, sex-obsessed male chauvinist pig, the kind of self-centered jerk you wouldn’t want any female around you dating.
So look out strip clubs, online dating sites, and cuddle parties, here I come!
I’m trying to work out if you’re actually being serious, or pitting people who espouse the views in your OP, because at the moment it looks like even money either way and someone’s going to get whooshed if there’s no clarification forthcoming…
*Oh, and even better, I can justify all this because I can call it by a fancy-dancy name! If I didn’t have the fancy-dancy name, why, I’d just be an immature, sex-obsessed male chauvinist pig, the kind of self-centered jerk you wouldn’t want any female around you dating. *
Given his contributions to this thread, I’m betting the latter. His pitting shows the same conflation of mindless, uncaring sex and poly relationships as his posts to that thread. My own view is that the two are, quite obviously, not the same thing, but I’ll let him get on with his ranting. It’s clearly cathartic for him.
Hm . . . be hurt bad enough to want to end the relationship . . . that sounds like despite the window dressing and politeness of the ‘deal’, she clearly needed him to remain monogamous for the relationship to work, which he did. How this is different than any other monogamous agreement I cannot see. “I will be in a relationship with you. If you choose to be with other people, I’m likely going to want to end it with you.”
I don’t know many monogamous relationships that start off with the guy saying, ‘I will almost certainly be having sex and possibly having a deep meaningful relationship with other women while I’m dating you’.