Okay, just kidding on the dying.
But I am going to CoAbode with another single mother with a 9 year-old son- my son that still lives at home is 12. I’m sure I heard about it here on the Dope, and signed up with it several months ago. I was thisclose to signing a lease on a new apartment, just us, when I got the first email from anybody there. We went to see it yesterday, and we are moving in next weekend.
I’m pretty wary about it. It’s been years since I’ve shared living space with anybody but my kids, and I am used to it being my house, and being the boss. I recall the roommate days of my youth with something not close to fondness. The days of petty bitching about stupid shit that really doesn’t matter and walking on eggshells around moody bitches and dealing with other people’s dramas and PMS and messes. Ugh.
I’m being very optimistic that it won’t be like that now, though- at 42 (as she is, too) I like to think I can handle my own shit and other people’s shit with infinitely more patience, grace, and understanding than way back when, and that with mature and reasonable communication, we will be able to work through any issue that might come up. Bwahahaha?
As far as the house, it’s nice. Almost 2000 sq feet, we will all have our own bedrooms, and my son and I will share a bathroom, and we will have our own living room, as well. All that will need to be shared with them is the kitchen, dining room, laundry machines, and backyard. One little thing that bothers me already is that she gets the nice living room and the nice, huge master bedroom, and yet is expecting us to pay half, when I think she should pay a little more for the nicer rooms. I probably won’t say anything, and just let it go. The house is rented, which is really the only way to go- I can’t see myself living in someone else’s house, where every little conflict would come down to “my house, my rules”. Um, no. So, renting is good and makes us equals and makes my son and I really feel like our part of the house is ours. I hope.
I’m scared. I’m hopeful. I’m glad that I am having the courage to do something different, at least, since I don’t like my life the way it has been and need a change. Yay?