I have received repeated “heads up” types of comments that I am pushing my luck here, and honestly I realize that even writing this thread now may get me banned.
But after doing a little research both here and on other sites, it appears to me that you have a knack for crossing the line with posters with whom you disagree. I read a lot of posts that articulated what I felt when you called me a twat yet somehow, because you are in a position of power and in my case, made it into a silly joke, it was ok. Well, in my opinion, it was not ok. In fact, you then criticized me for implying someone was being passive aggressive. Really? YOU CALLED ME A TWAT.
I am stating this because I don’t want to regret in the future not speaking up now. I feel I deserve an apology–unless it is not genuine. I define genuine as you acknowledging what you did, not minimizing my feelings (read: “I am sorry you interpreted it that way.”)
It is sad to me that the threads I read about similar issues were over a year old…that even back then you were violating standard forum rules without consequence. I appreciate that I have a space to share this and hope I am not banned or warned or whatever because of it. If I am, then that’s ok too because I don’t want to be a part of a community where the people in charge are hypocritical and untouchable.
Dude, not only are you committing suicide-by-mod, you are also being pre-emptively an asshole about it.
You are clinically depressed. Every thread here you posted says so in big neon signs. Go get checked out by a GP. He’ll describe antidepressants that will cost you less then 10 bucks a week to take. That will do you a world of good. Then come back and try again, if you still want.
My misdiagnosis is not the case here (though it’s pretty damn awesomely hilarious to be “diagnosed” by a stranger on the other side of the world who is most likely not qualified to do so…) It’s actually really funny.
But I digress. I searched “Twickster straight dope boards” on google and stopped reading after 12 separate links of concerns–yep, an entire page of google searches full of complaints.
And when she does “apologize” it’s never written in a way that demonstrates she owns her behavior and feels remorseful. It’s always “I’m sorry you misread” or “I’m sorry you are saddened by that” or whatever. How about, “I’m sorry I did xyz” ?
Again, I’d rather be banned having spoke my peace than unable to post, wishing I had said something…
OP, looks to me like she was posting as a regular poster and not as a mod. IMHO she owes you no apology. She’s allowed to think you’re a twat. More often than not people aren’t given actual warnings for what she did so she “corrected herself” with a mod note and moved on. So should you. Then again, I’ve never understood the mentality of requesting an apology. What value could you possibly place on an apology that is forced?
On a side note: Your OP indicates you’ve done some reading into her background here. That should let you know exactly how much value you should place on her opinion of you. Not worth the effort it took to write this.
Move on, she owes you nothing.
ETA: It looks like the post you made previous to this indicates you no longer want your apology? Maybe you should ask someone to close this then.
Actually, it’s that it’s against the rules, mod or not, to talk that way outside the pit. The expectations are higher for the people who enforce the rules. And it seems that she is frequently operating from the school of “do as I say and not as I do.”
I agree with the forced apology issue, and like I said (in both posts) I would appreciate it if it was not an antipology. I am aware I piss people off, but to jump in like that and make a personal attack was not ok, and not in that setting.
As for the research piece: there were 2 things that initiated it. 1. when I found giraffe boards and saw someone else’s statement about her more global behavior. 2. tonight when I was reading Ambivalids thread and mentioned that it’s difficult to be taken seriously when you appear to be sour grapes. why wait to say something?
ETA: I was half joking with that all caps comment.
It’s against the rules to name call, yes. But most rule infractions of that nature are met with simple notes to knock it off, not official warnings or bannings. (How do I know this? Because I’ve received several. Notes, that is. I think I have racked up one well-deserved Warning, but I’ve gotten a double handful of notes over the years.)
As to being held to a higher standard, not to be all SDMBey about it, but…cite? I don’t think the mods should be above the rules, but I don’t think, nor is there precedent that I can recall, that mods posting as posters be held to a higher standard than the rest of us. Then again, they change those pages and pages of FAQs and rules and membership guidelines more often than I care to keep up, so if you can find a higher standard there, by all means do share.
I think you got exactly what you would have gotten had another poster called you a twat, and the rest of us got a little chuckle out of it. An apology after a note isn’t required.
Will a Mod please just pull the trigger on this (descriptive phrase deleted) already? For what you are paid this should have been taken care of days ago!
Yeah, you’re not telling us something we don’t all already know about Twix. No one is surprised. No one is honestly thinking she’ll apologize. We’ve all seen her in action enough to know, it’s not going to happen. And if you do force it, it will be lame and not on point. Again, we have lots of experience with this.
She is like Teflon, nothing sticks. The admins could care, yours is just, yet another, complaint about Twix.
You’d think, if it happens often enough, if enough people complain, if she’s often demonstratively jerkish. But no.
Ain’t nothing going to change. Sad but true. Like the rest of us, who have been caught on the wrong side of her, you’ll just have to suck it up and ignore her.
It’s never worth engaging with her, she never owns her mistakes, only apologizes when forced to, and the lamest non apologies you’ve ever witnessed.
If not the incriminating photos maybe you pay twix a small stipend? Twix owes you a large sum of money? You are secretly lovers? Members of the same church or club?
