I’ve watched a couple of episodes of the MTV show dangermom is so outraged by (erm, and she says she hasn’t seen the show in its entirety?) I thought it was a fine idea.
They round up a bunch of kids from the school. Not all the kids. Some jocks, some nerds, some dweebs, some gangstas, some weirdos, some preps, some normal kids. Whatever.
The kids meet with the leaders of the event. One dude who was a real badass and was a horrible person who went to jail and is now better. One perky lady who had a rough go as a teen mom (I think?) They get a pep talk about not being a jerk.
The kids then break off into small groups and “let it all out.” They talk about “If you really knew me, you’d know…” that the jock kid hates playing football but his dad makes him. The emo girl cuts herself. The preppy girl is having a hard time dealing with her parents’ divorce and that’s why she’s so mean. The school bully doesn’t want to be a bully but he’s a big dude and that’s his defense. Everybody cries, everybody hugs.
After that, they do the “horrifying” exercise where people cross that line if they’ve…ever lost a loved one, ever been a victim of bullying, ever bullied someone. The kids say “woah, I didn’t realize Preppy Girl lost a loved one…” “Man, even the bully has been bullied!”
Then the leaders call upon the kids to make a pledge to not be such douchebags to one another. To maybe think about how they’re not all that different. How everybody hurts. Everyone has a story.
One episode, at the end a group of unlikely friends went out together and had a fun time and made a video. On another episode, the kids from the event held a meeting with the freshmen to tell them not to go on to be assholes as they get older.
It’s just a big love fest.
I saw three or four episodes of this show and it really seemed cool to me. It’s not just a lecture on not being a bully and not just a way for sad kids to learn how to stand up for themselves. To me, it seemed like a way to mobilize the students to police themselves and have a little compassion instead of going about their day all self-absorbed and mean.
From what I saw from a couple of the “It Gets Better Project” videos where grown-up bullies atone for their previous behavior, empathy is not a lightbulb that goes on for everyone during their teen years. Challenge Day is a way to clue kids in to empathy before they figure it out for themselves.