Ok, Ok, the pacifier thing has gotten blown way out of proportion. Since her first teeth came in, LittleB has chewed on things. She especially likes the smell of leather, as does her father, and she just wants something to chew on. This habit has decreased yearly. The pacifier is an actual infant pacifier. We were looking her baby pictures not too long ago, and she saw one picture with her and a beloved pacifier. I bought her a new one, as a joke as as a symbol to her that she is still my baby. She is not into drugs at all, and I have overheard her telling a friend that if they tried drugs, she would no longer be their friend. She is the only one among her friends who has a pacifier, so it’s not a social thing, either. Yes, it is infantile, but that’s just her. There, hope that clears that issue.
Now, as to why she had the knife in the first place. My husband collects knives, I have a knife, our older daughter has a knife. We have knives everywhere, mostly the older kind that your granddad might have carried, but also knives made from exotic woods, Native American knives etc… LittleB had a knife in her office because she had opened a package the night before, and when she had used it, placed it on her desk along with the other contents of her pockets. This morning, she scoops up her stuff and puts everything in her pocket. A mistake, an oversight.
I understand that said knife is against school policy. I have no problem with that. Nor do I have a problem with the suspension (out of school, no access to school grounds at all). She made a mistake and should pay for it. What I am against, however, is the possibility of suspension for more than 5 days, the possible expulsion from school, and the principal’s implication that she may be referred to the “alternative school”. To me, that last is like sending a person to the Federal Pen for a traffic ticket. She has never been in trouble before. She talks, though, alot. But as far a violence, there is not a violent bone in her body. She does not make threats in jest, does not watch violent movies or games, and does not hit. Never has. The worst she will do to you is hug you and not let go. This is a child who will run to Dad to kill a bug!
I do not expect “special” treatment, but I do expect FAIR treatment. She had fogotten about the knife completely, and when she was called to the principal’s office, she thought she was getting into trouble because one knee of her jeans was ripped! Does that sound like someone who constitutes a threat?
As an aside, while we were looking through the student handbook, she pointed out that the punishment for having posession of an illegal substance was LESS than that of having a 2" knife.