I know there isn’t a lot of parenting talk on this board, but I thought I would give it a try.
We (normally) have a very cool and calm 3 year old.
About six months ago (around when he turned 3), his mom and I had to attend a conference for a day and a half. It was local, so we picked him up at night and dropped him off in the morning, but it was one of the longest he was without us. At the end of it he was distraught because we were not there. I am not sure if this was just the first time we noticed the beginning of the clingy issue, or this was one of the tipping points that helped cause it.
Since then, he has only gotten worse. He doesn’t want to be dropped off for Sunday School at church, when he previously had no problems. A few weeks ago he melted down because we left for two hours (he remained at our home with his grandparents, who he adores, so not a distressing environment).
With a few exceptions, we have catered to him. Continuously, in words and in actions, we have showed that we will not abandon him. We do not make him go to Sunday School alone. But even when he is there, he attaches to our legs and won’t play with the other kids.
I figured this would be a phase, we would reassure him that we would never leave him, and we would all move on from this. Well, six months later… its not getting any better.
There have been no big changes in our family. No moves, no new family members. We haven’t even changed our shampoo!
Any thoughts? Does this happen to every 3 year old? Most people and websites talk about toddler “phases” as if they are a few weeks, but we are seeing no light at the end of the tunnel.