30+ and unmarried = undateable?

[johnnyk]

*Originally posted by Susanann *
**Nothing wrong with it? (1.)

Nothing?(2.)

Are you saying that there is nothing wrong with birth defects?(3.)

Postponing marraige usually means postponing the bearing of children. (4.)

Women who wait until after 30 to get married, means that they could be having children into their mid 30’s, late 30’s, and early 40’s. (5.)

Birth defects are significantly more common among older women who bear children. (6.)

Of course, if you are not going to have children, I really dont care what you do, or whether you marry or not at all. (7.)**

I shall answer your questions/statements in order:

1. Nope

2. That’s what I said.

3. Birth defects were not mentioned in your original post.

4. Yes it does, for SOME folks…but not all.

5. By gumby you’re right! Now…at what age could they be having children if they wait until age 45 to get married? :rolleyes:

6. The same can be said for 20 year old women who do drugs. What’s your point?

7. I’m sure those folks that are over 30 and newly married but choose to stay childless appreciate having both your blessing and your indifference.:rolleyes:

[johnnyk]

*Originally posted by Susanann *
**Nothing wrong with it? (1.)

Nothing?(2.)

Are you saying that there is nothing wrong with birth defects?(3.)

Postponing marraige usually means postponing the bearing of children. (4.)

Women who wait until after 30 to get married, means that they could be having children into their mid 30’s, late 30’s, and early 40’s. (5.)

Birth defects are significantly more common among older women who bear children. (6.)

Of course, if you are not going to have children, I really dont care what you do, or whether you marry or not at all. (7.)**

I shall answer your questions/statements in order:

1. Nope

2. That’s what I said.

3. Birth defects were not mentioned in your original post.

4. Yes it does, for SOME folks…but not all.

5. By gumby you’re right! Now…at what age could they be having children if they wait until age 45 to get married? :rolleyes:

6. The same can be said for 20 year old women who do drugs. What’s your point?

7. I’m sure those folks that are over 30 and newly married but choose to stay childless appreciate having both your blessing and your indifference.:rolleyes:

[HPL]

*Originally posted by Susanann *
**Anybody over 30 who has never been married, probably has problems, or else must have a very good reason why(e.g fiance died, was in prison, etc). **

I can think of a very good reason. Not having found the right person yet and not wanting to marry the wrong one.

[debe]

I have never posted before but thought after reading this I should.

I am a female almost 34 and have never been married or had any children. However I have had some good relationships and some bad ones. I have lived with 2 blokes (at separate times) which is almost the same as marrage. I do not consider myselfe to be avoided by the opposite sex because I have not been married. Instead I have found most bloke of our age find it a reliefe as there is no extra baggage brought into the relationship.

Be happy because there is someone out there for everyone and you can choose to have fun finding them or you can choose to wait around and do nothing until they find you. My advice is to go out there, have fun and enjoy yourself.

Best wishes

De

[UncleBill]

Welcome to the Straight Dope, debe, you are a wise woman.

I was single and over 30, and LOVING it (had been divorced, so maybe I’m not a loser after all, according to Susanann, on whose opinion I base my day to day decisions).

[fizgig]

Don’t have time to read all of this, but wanted to chime in anyway. A guy in his thirties who’s never been married isn’t a detriment per se. For me, it would depend on what he’d been doing with the last 15 years. If they were spent in mom’s basement playing video games, then, um, no. If they were spent earning a PhD, working for the Peace Corp, travelling, pursuing a competitive sport, working in Denali, etc. I’d think he was a catch, and I’d be thrilled that someone with those interests would take an interest in me.

So really, it’s on a case-by-case basis.

[fizgig]

*Originally posted by pestie *
**Well, if you’re curious how it’s phrased, have a look. I ran it by a close female friend who’s known me for 10+ years and is generally very good at all things relationship-related and she made a few “woman’s perspective” edits, which I think were good. The ad I have posted now is her edited version. And for the record, I really am long-term anti-kid. One of the women I wrote to expressly said the same thing in her ad, but like I said, I got nothin’.

Oh, no argument there! I tried my best to do exactly that. **

pestie That’s really a great ad! It’s the type of thing I would respond to. However, my recommendation is to cut it down by at least half. Once you get the ball rolling, there’s plenty of time to email the rest of the info back and forth. Scrolling into the big block of text may make a lot of women (even the intelliegent ones with uppity book learnin’) hit the “next” button if they’re busy/just surfing through/whatever. Try to whittle down to the essentials that will set a “bait.” The ad doesn’t have to say everything there is to know about you.

[johnnyk]

*Originally posted by Susanann *
**Nothing wrong with it? (1.)

Nothing?(2.)

Are you saying that there is nothing wrong with birth defects?(3.)

Postponing marraige usually means postponing the bearing of children.(4.)

Women who wait until after 30 to get married, means that they could be having children into their mid 30’s, late 30’s, and early 40’s.(5.)

Birth defects are significantly more common among older women who bear children. (6.)

Of course, if you are not going to have children, I really dont care what you do, or whether you marry or not at all.(7.) **

I shall answer your questions/statements in order:

1. Nope.

2. That’s what I said.

3. Birth defects were not mentioned in your OP.

4. That’s true for some people, but not all.

5. VERY good! Now…if a woman waits until she is 45 to get married, how long “could she be having children”?

6. Same thing can be said about women in their 20’s who smoke crack. What’s your point?

7. I’m sure all the newly married, thirtysomething folks who have decided to be childless appreciate your tacit approval…as well as your indifference.:rolleyes: :rolleyes:

[johnnyk]

Apologies for the triple post folks… Damn computer locked up and I didnt think the post had taken.