The whole thing is that for large populations in America gay women are still seen as either exceptionally feminine (“girls kissing omg so hot”) or exceptionally masculine (“dykes”, construction workers, athletes) where gay men are only seen as hyper-feminine, since a hyper-masculine gay man would cause those bigoted hetero males to have a gender crisis I.E. they would feel “feminized” in comparison. So for the typical male that cares about such things, it would be fine if gay males are flamboyant Broadway-singing interior designers, because they, as Real Men, are even manlier in comparison. But an NFL player? NFL players are as Manly as you can get, the American ideal of masculinity. So it’s impossible for an NFL player to be gay, because gay guys are feminine, and if the Manliest Men Alive can be feminine, then I must be incredibly feminine in comparison, and being a woman is the Worst Thing Ever, so…
Anyway.
This is interesting to me because my favorite sport out of the Big Four is hockey, by far. But I have to pretend a lot of issues like this don’t exist in hockey, because they are faaaaaaaaaaaar behind most sports in acceptance of all forms, and it would destroy my enjoyment of the game. Some hockey fanbases still are openly racist! (Exhibit A: Boston)
A good example of this are helmets, visors and cages. From the start of the sport it was seen as “womanly” to wear a helmet, and anyone who tried was derided by the media, fans, and fellow players for, essentially, being a “pussy.”
There were a lot of on-ice “incidents”, but it wasn’t until 1968, when Bill Masterson died on ice, that they thought it wouldn’t be a terrible idea. But they didn’t mandate their use until ELEVEN years later, in 1979! All because helmets were “womanly”. (Football had been using helmets for 80 years at that point…)
Once it became standard, the next thing was clear plastic shields, called visors, that cover the eyes - in a sport where it’s routine to block rubber pucks moving at 90MPH with your body, it was seen as “womanly” to protect your eyes, nose, and all the squishy bits with a piece of plastic. Yea, some people complained that they fogged up, but those arguments were largely bullshit.
It wasn’t until a few years back, when future hall of famer Chris Pronger took a puck to the head and effectively ended his career - not to mention Marc Staal practically losing an eye - that now players are wearing them and there’s serious talk of mandating them.
But you know what’s even better? Cages, wire shields that cover the whole face area. Pretty much full visibility (after an adjustment period, of course) and 100% protection from 90mph pucks, being slammed into boards by an angry 240lb defensemen, razor sharp skate blades that can fly through the air at times, etc. They’re required at the lower levels, but once you move to the NHL - where Real Men play - there’d be no end to the abuse someone would take for opting to wear one.
Just a few weeks ago, Sydney Crosby (whose called “Cidney Crysbaby” by opposing teams fans), who is inarguably the face of the NHL for better or worse, broke his jaw from a 90mph slapshot. His return is indefinite, he might be out for the rest of the year, and if the puck had moved a little here, a little there, his career could have easily been over. All because cages are “womanly” and not what Real Men wear.
With all of that said, I’d find it incredible if any hockey player came out anytime soon. There’s some really classy teams, some really classy fanbases, but there’s also a laaaaarge knuckle dragging contingency to hockey, to the point where the players risk their lives in easily avoidable ways because they don’t want to be seen as “womanly”.