I have a 7 year old daughter who has lied 3 times in the past couple of months. The first time she lied by saying she had fed the dog when she hadn’t. The second time she lied by saying someone said something they hadn’t. The 3rd time she lied about brushing her teeth.
The first time she lied we took away ‘screens’ (tv, computer, video games) for a couple of weeks and sweets for a couple of weeks. She also had to tell us when she was feeding the dog so we could make sure it was being done. We talked to her about why lying is wrong and explained that if she did it again, there would be more severe consequences. We also explained that no matter what she does wrong, it is better to tell the truth than to lie because lying would only make the punishment worse.
The second time she was grounded for 2 weeks (no friends, no screens, no sweets, no leaving the house) and we took away her birthday party. This one was so severe because she lied within two weeks of the first lie. It wasn’t like it had been months between the lies. Once again, we explained to her why lying is wrong and that it doesn’t make sense to lie about such small things when the consequences would be far worse than what would happen if she told the truth.
The final time was tonight, about 3 weeks since the last lie. At this point, I’m not sure what to do. Obviously taking away things isn’t working and neither is trying to explain why lying is wrong.
Any advice? How do I convince her lying is wrong? I’m tempted to give her a 2 week grounding again and after that let her deal with the fact that I can’t trust her: she can’t go to a friend’s house since I can’t trust she’ll behave; she can’t be trusted to feed the dog without telling us so we can be sure it gets done; she’ll need to be supervised for essentially any chore to be sure she gets it done, etc.